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Mentioned in 8 episodes
Polysecure
Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
Book • 2020
Polysecure by Jessica Fern is a comprehensive guide that integrates attachment theory with consensual nonmonogamy.
Fern, a polyamorous psychotherapist, introduces a nested model of attachment and trauma, explaining how emotional experiences influence relationships.
The book is divided into three parts: the first part explains attachment theory, the second part applies this theory to polyamorous relationships, and the third part offers practical strategies (using the HEARTS model) to foster secure attachments.
Fern emphasizes that secure attachment is not limited to monogamous relationships and can be learned and developed in adulthood, regardless of one's childhood experiences.
Fern, a polyamorous psychotherapist, introduces a nested model of attachment and trauma, explaining how emotional experiences influence relationships.
The book is divided into three parts: the first part explains attachment theory, the second part applies this theory to polyamorous relationships, and the third part offers practical strategies (using the HEARTS model) to foster secure attachments.
Fern emphasizes that secure attachment is not limited to monogamous relationships and can be learned and developed in adulthood, regardless of one's childhood experiences.
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Mentioned in 8 episodes
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Joli Hamilton as a book that has had a big impact on the non-monogamy world and uses attachment theory.
Joli Hamilton as a book that has had a big impact on the non-monogamy world and uses attachment theory.
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140 [Replay] Balancing Individuation & Secure Attachment with Polysecure Author Jessica Fern
Recommended by Dedeker Winston as an excellent resource on how attachment theory can intersect with non-monogamy.
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532 - Is Attachment Theory Just Bullsh*t?
Erwähnt von 
Sonja Jüngling , als eines der Standardwerke zum Thema Polyamorie, das erst seit kurzem auf Deutsch verfügbar ist.
Sonja Jüngling , als eines der Standardwerke zum Thema Polyamorie, das erst seit kurzem auf Deutsch verfügbar ist.
#86 - FAQ mit Timmy - Heimlichkeiten & soziale Gerechtigkeit
Mentioned by Fern when discussing emotional and structural security in relationships.
How to Open Your Relationship (and Actually Make It Work) ft. The Polyamory Therapy Collective
Recommended by Janice Formichella as a resource for overcoming relationship anxiety through self-soothing.
Coping with Loneliness
Mentioned by Kate, this book helped her realize she had an anxious attachment style.
S1 Ep. 9: Dating Separately (Part 2)
Mentioned by 
Jordan Harbinger and Gabriel Mizrahi while discussing ethical non-monogamy and its challenges.
Jordan Harbinger and Gabriel Mizrahi while discussing ethical non-monogamy and its challenges.
699: Can An Open Marriage Be Anxiety-Free? | Feedback Friday
Mentioned by Lauren when discussing tools for navigating casual dating.
Ethical Casual Dating, Spicy Confessions, and Lessons from the Slut Era
Mentioned by James as a great lens to look at a polyamorous relationship through.
Ep 382 - James
Mentioned by Kate as a helpful resource for working through their conflict and understanding their relationship dynamics.
S1 Ep. 10: Dating Separately (Part 3)
