Jessica Fern

Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist and author specializing in non-monogamy and attachment theory, dives into the intricate balance between secure attachment and individuation. She discusses how awareness of attachment styles can reshape relationships, especially in non-monogamous contexts. Jealousy and parental guilt are explored, along with methods to address these emotions for healthier connections. Jessica also touches on shame and its link to trauma, emphasizing the need for self-compassion and effective communication in navigating complex relational dynamics.

Today's podcast features Jessica Fern and David Cooley, authors of 'Polywise', discussing paradigm shifts in non-monogamous relationships, the challenges of transitioning from monogamy, and the politics of polyamory. They also explore the integration of restorative practices and the importance of safe spaces for conflict resolution in intimate relationships.

Jessica Fern, a psychotherapist and author of "Polysecure," dives into the world of polyamory and consensual non-monogamy. She discusses how to transcend cultural conditioning and insecure attachment styles in relationships. The conversation explores the concept of erotic blueprints, offering insights into different styles—energetic, sensual, sexual, kinky, and shapeshifter. Jessica emphasizes the role of communication, consent, and emotional connections in navigating intimacy, while challenging misconceptions about non-monogamous lifestyles.

Psychotherapist Jessica Fern and restorative justice facilitator David Cooley discuss opening up, attachment, codependency, psychedelics in polyamory, and their new book Polywise. They share personal experiences, relationship dynamics, setting limits, codependency challenges, collaborative book projects, and the impact of psychedelics on consciousness and relationships.

Join the discussion on trauma and attachment theories with Jessica Fern, exploring the impact of adult attachment styles. Learn about invisible traumas in middle-class environments and the challenges faced in non-monogamous relationships. Discover strategies for developing secure attachments and navigating attachment issues in relationships.

Guest Jessica Fern, who coined 'justice jealousy,' discusses the differences between jealousy and envy, underlying issues fueling justice jealousy, and the importance of empathy in relationships. The episode explores communication, forgiveness, and tools to navigate justice jealousy and repair relationships.

Jessica Fern, expert in consensual non-monogamy, discusses the prevalence of infidelity and divorce, issues with the modern love story and codependency, and different variations of consensual non-monogamy. The podcast covers best practices in defining reasons and boundaries, the difference between structural and statistical security, and references books by Jessica Fern, bell hooks, and Daniel Schmachtenberger.

Psychotherapist and author Jessica Fern discusses polyamory, paradigms in relationships, dealing with jealousy, and parenting in non-traditional structures. The conversation explores the spectrum of polyamorous relationships, legal challenges, and the importance of secure attachments for children. Jessica also shares insights on personal growth, finding purpose, and overcoming self-doubt in pursuing dreams.

In this conversation, David Cooley, a restorative justice facilitator, and Jessica Fern, a seasoned therapist, explore the dynamic interplay of the inner critic, shame, and perfectionism. They unveil the 'shame triangle' and discuss how these parts can keep us stuck. The duo highlights the transformative power of turning the inner critic into a nurturing coach for self-healing. They also delve into how personal histories influence our shame narratives and the importance of redefining success beyond binary outcomes.

In this insightful discussion, psychotherapist Jessica Fern and restorative justice facilitator David Cooley explore the transformative power of addressing shame. They introduce their book, revealing the 'shame triangle' and how inherited narratives shape our experiences. Listeners learn practical tools to shift from self-criticism to self-nurturing, and how relationships serve as mirrors for personal growth. With actionable strategies, they emphasize the importance of cultivating authentic connections and understanding the underlying patterns of shame in our lives.