Ep. 15 - Jessica Fern & David Cooley on "Polywise"
Sep 13, 2023
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Psychotherapist Jessica Fern and restorative justice facilitator David Cooley discuss opening up, attachment, codependency, psychedelics in polyamory, and their new book Polywise. They share personal experiences, relationship dynamics, setting limits, codependency challenges, collaborative book projects, and the impact of psychedelics on consciousness and relationships.
Exploring attachment and codependency in non-monogamous relationships can lead to self-discovery and personal growth.
Establishing clear communication, boundaries, and gradual progression is essential in navigating the opening of polyamorous relationships.
Community support and 'kitchen table polyamory' play crucial roles in enhancing familial intimacy and raising children in non-monogamous settings.
Deep dives
Exploring Non-Monogamy and Polyamory
The podcast delves into the world of non-monogamy and polyamory through the experiences of an author and a therapist who have co-authored books on the subject. They share their journey from monogamy to polyamory, highlighting the challenges and growth experienced.
Attachment and Codependency in Relationships
The speakers discuss the impact of attachment styles and codependency on relationships. They share personal stories of attachment challenges and how exploring non-monogamy brought these issues to the forefront, leading to self-discovery and growth.
Opening Up Relationships Gradually
The speakers emphasize the importance of navigating the opening of relationships at a comfortable pace. They advocate for clear communication, setting boundaries, and gradual exploration to avoid overwhelming attachment ruptures.
Community Support in Non-Monogamy
The podcast highlights the role of community support in non-monogamous relationships. The concept of 'kitchen table polyamory' and building communal intimacy is discussed as a way to enhance familial connections and support in raising children.
Psychedelics and Transformation
The role of psychedelics in personal transformation and relationship dynamics is explored. The speakers share insights on how psychedelics can help rewire cognitive patterns, explore identity, and facilitate growth in exploring non-normative relationship structures.
Jessica Fern is the author of "Polysecure". She is a psychotherapist, public speaker, and trauma and relationship expert. With David Cooley, Jessica co-authored her new book "Polywise".
David Cooley is a professional restorative justice facilitator, diversity and privilege awareness trainer, and bilingual cultural broker.
In this episode Jessica and David share about their own experiences with opening up, their thoughts on attachment and codependency, psychedelics and polyamory and their new book, Polywise.