Evolving Love

Evan's story is unlike anything you've heard. Imagine spending your most formative years within the confines of a religious fundamentalist cult. How would this shape your approach to sex, love and relationships?In addition to his vulnerability, honesty and ability to self-reflect, Evan is also a talented songwriter and frontman of his Canberra-based band, The Burley Griffin.In this episode, prepare to be moved as we delve into Evan's inspiring journey: from rebuilding his understanding of love and intimacy after purity culture, to his personal explorations in non-monogamy, his path to self-love, grappling with external and intrinsic validation, how the Queer community became a vital force in his deconstruction of social and relationship norms and so much more….Evan Buckley Links:SpotifyBandcampEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack-Podcast Cover Photo: Josh de Hoog This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

We take the opportunity to celebrate our 10th Wedding Anniversary by reliving the night of the proposal!Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In todays episode we discuss Liam being shamed, how we police language, a recent Chris Williamson Instagram caption, an incredible new TV show “Adolescence”, and so much more!Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

We have a difficult discussion in today’s podcast that relates to child safety and Abbey’s recent Substack article “We Must Be Critical of Non-Monogamy”. We unpack the reception and criticisms around the article, the importance of nuanced conversations around this topic, why no community is immune from having these discussions and so much more.Important Resources:If you feel affected by this episode and the themes discussed, please reach out to these great resources:United States:Childhelp USAThe National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN)Australia:Kids HelplineBraveheartsEngland:NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children)Childline-Study referenced in episode: UNSW Study Link This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Tim is a philosopher, award-winning writer and teacher. He has a doctorate in philosophy from the University of New South Wales on the evolution of morality and specialises in ethics, critical thinking, the philosophy of science and the philosophy of education.Currently, Tim is the Senior Philosopher at The Ethics Centre (who run the brilliant “Festival of Dangerous Ideas” in Sydney), and is an Honorary Associate in the philosophy department at the University of Sydney.In 2021 he released the critically acclaimed book entitled “How We Became Human: And Why We Need to Change” and we reference this frequently in our chat today.In this conversation we discuss the moral panic of non-monogamy, where do our beliefs come from, whether monogamy is a moral good in the world, how do we calibrate our ethical compass, how do you balance the intellectual and the embodied, parenting and the window of plasticity, where do monogamous ethical frameworks come from, serial monogamy and so much more.Guest LinksDr. Tim Dean WebsiteEthics Centre WebsiteEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today’s episode we unpack Liam’s recent vasectomy procedure. We discuss the procedure, the lead up and the aftermath, delve into the ethics of contraception, the importance of peas and double briefs, semen, myths around vasectomies, manhood and so much more…Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

Georgia Grace is a certified sex and relationship practitioner and somatic therapist who is particularly known for her work in somatic sexology, embodied counselling and trauma-informed practices.Her approach to working with sex and relationships is inclusive, sex-positive and shame-free, and supports individuals, couples and groups to overcome common sexual concerns.She is also a co-founder of NORMAL, a sexual wellness company, where she works with Lucy Wark and a team of experts to create educational courses and design modern sex toys.Georgia hosts the podcast “Glad You Came”, and in October 2024 released her critically acclaimed book “The Modern Guide to Sex”.This conversation was our first time meeting Georgia, and we were immediately captivated by her intellect, wit, compassion and articulate way of explaining concepts. Based in Australia, we are thankful that one of the leading voices on sexuality is someone who embraces a forward-thinking, inclusive and sex-positive approach.In this wide roaming chat we discuss; faking orgasm, masturbation scripts, the concept of “The Learning Edge”, embodiment and sexuality, top down and bottom up therapeutic approaches, the role of porn, the window of tolerance, “up-regulating and down-regulating”, practice vs play sessions, maintaining erotic desire, listening to your bodies’ cues and so much more.Guest Links:WebsiteInstagramNormal ToysEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today’s episode we trial a new format for the show as we play with hypothetical scenarios!Abbey’s lover Caspian leaves his socks everywhere! When is enough enough? How will Abbey confront him?Brenda, Kai, Abbey and Liam embark on a polycule camping trip…. come along for the ride!!Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today’s conversation we discuss whether men deserve a voice, sensitive men, rolemodels, social media and the influence of the manosphere, how to bring men into the conversation, how men can advocate for men’s issues and hold feminist ideals in tandem, the importance of men expressing affection, the role of a competitive nature in masculinity, why every man must own a lamp, how Liam’s masculinity impacts on his metamour relationships, and Liam and I have a bust-up that is mediated by James over how Liam makes my tea…Guest Links:James’ SubstackUnpublished PodcastJames’ InstagramEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe

In today’s episode we discuss one of our favourite New York experiences… a photoshoot that was impossible to forget… on the Brooklyn Bridge with Kenn Lichtenwalter. Kenn Lichtenwalter Links:InstagramBSkyDive Deeper This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe