Dean Spade, an organizer, activist, and writer, discusses the transformative power of connection in combating societal disconnection. He emphasizes how genuine relationships can foster mutual aid and resilience, especially in times of crisis. Spade introduces ideas from his book, 'Love in a F*cked-Up World,' advocating for relationships grounded in desire and community support. The conversation also touches on the importance of navigating grief together, building consent, and redefining masculinity to create a more inclusive society.

On today's episode, writer and activist Dean Spade (He\Him) joins us for a conversation all about liberating our relationships from patriarchal and capitalist understandings of connection. Together we talk about building community outside of the nuclear model, choosing to be uncomfortable in order to live more, and feeling powerless to jealousy.  RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : ⁠https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy⁠ If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support the National Network of Abortion Funds: https://abortionfunds.org/ Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith Modern Anarchy Community: Instagram Facebook Patreon Dean Spade's Community Website Instagram Resources to Learn More: Fireweed Collective Dismantling the Romance Myth Falling In Love Hits The Brain Like Cocaine Does The Brain Looks The Same When We're In Love Or High On Cocaine What is the Relationship Escalator? Loneliness at epidemic levels in America Angela Davis likens abolishing the prison system to end of slavery Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy Between monogamy and polyamory Relationship anarchy could be about so much more than the freedom to fuck Of relationship anarchy, accessibility and sitting shiva— Part 1: The anarchism of “relationship anarchy

This week’s guest is Dean Spade, an activist and author known for his impactful work on mutual aid and trans rights. They dive into the transformative power of communal support versus traditional charity, emphasizing how mutual aid fosters shared responsibility. Dean discusses personal finance aligning with values and how anger can drive social change. Listeners are encouraged to engage in local mutual aid initiatives, highlighting the need for empathy and emotional intelligence in building resilient communities amidst today’s challenges.