Dean Spade

Dean Spade, an organizer, activist, and writer, discusses the transformative power of connection in combating societal disconnection. He emphasizes how genuine relationships can foster mutual aid and resilience, especially in times of crisis. Spade introduces ideas from his book, 'Love in a F*cked-Up World,' advocating for relationships grounded in desire and community support. The conversation also touches on the importance of navigating grief together, building consent, and redefining masculinity to create a more inclusive society.

Beatrice chats with Dean Spade, a law professor and activist known for their work on social justice and mutual aid. They dive into the state's inadequate responses to crises like climate change and COVID-19, advocating for grassroots movements as essential alternatives. The discussion critiques traditional political solutions and emphasizes the urgency of addressing systemic injustice, urging communities to empower themselves through collective action. Spade’s insights challenge listeners to rethink their approach to crises and political engagement.

Dean Spade, a renowned queer and trans activist and author of 'Love in a Fucked Up World,' joins the discussion to explore the intersections of love, social change, and mutual aid. He delves into personal anxieties, ways to self-authorize creatively, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships. The conversation also critiques the 'romance myth' while advocating for deeper connections beyond romantic love. Spade encourages listeners to navigate intimacy thoughtfully, promoting empathy and community engagement in times of struggle.

Dean Spade, an organizer and author renowned for his work on mutual aid and trans liberation, shares powerful insights on collective action. He distinguishes mutual aid from charity, emphasizing its focus on systemic change rather than individual blame. Spade highlights historical instances like the Montgomery bus boycott and critiques government disaster response as inadequate. He stresses the importance of building relationships, embracing imperfection, and fostering joy in organizing, ultimately framing mutual aid as essential for survival and resilience in challenging times.

On today's episode, writer and activist Dean Spade (He\Him) joins us for a conversation all about liberating our relationships from patriarchal and capitalist understandings of connection. Together we talk about building community outside of the nuclear model, choosing to be uncomfortable in order to live more, and feeling powerless to jealousy.  RELATIONSHIP ANARCHY RESEARCH : ⁠https://www.modernanarchypodcast.com/relationshipanarchy⁠ If you enjoyed today's podcast, then please subscribe, leave a review, or share this podcast with a friend! And if you want to connect deeper with the Modern Anarchy Family, then join the movement by becoming a part of the conscious objectors patreon. Your support is what powers this work and the larger societal change we are creating! Let's continue to challenge our assumptions and grow together. Join the community here: https://www.patreon.com/user?u=54121384 50% of all patreon pledges will be used to support the National Network of Abortion Funds: https://abortionfunds.org/ Intro and Outro Song: Wild Wild Woman by Your Smith Modern Anarchy Community: Instagram Facebook Patreon Dean Spade's Community Website Instagram Resources to Learn More: Fireweed Collective Dismantling the Romance Myth Falling In Love Hits The Brain Like Cocaine Does The Brain Looks The Same When We're In Love Or High On Cocaine What is the Relationship Escalator? Loneliness at epidemic levels in America Angela Davis likens abolishing the prison system to end of slavery Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy Between monogamy and polyamory Relationship anarchy could be about so much more than the freedom to fuck Of relationship anarchy, accessibility and sitting shiva— Part 1: The anarchism of “relationship anarchy

Dean Spade, an author and activist, delves into the intricacies of relationships and community-building. He shares his journey from monogamy to non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance of autonomy and varied connections. Dean offers practical tools for managing jealousy, including physical closeness and reflective exercises. He recounts the experience of shared parenting and how community support eased the challenges. Dean also discusses the significance of building inclusive communities in fostering relational skills and political activism.

Dean Spade, a writer and trans activist, shares insights from his book, discussing how relationships shape social movements. He emphasizes the importance of emotional awareness and how societal issues like patriarchy affect collaboration in activism. Spade critiques traditional notions of independence, promoting interdependence and community care, especially during the pandemic. He introduces 'ideological promiscuity' as a means to foster diverse relationships that fuel personal and collective growth, urging listeners to nurture connections in challenging times.

Dean Spade, trans activist, and Margaret discuss how mutual aid helps communities prepare for disasters, reevaluating political strategies, engagement through preparedness events, mutual aid as an entry point into activism, and exploring speculative fiction and climate themes in literature.

Dean Spade, a longtime activist and author of "Love in a F*cked Up World," shares his insights on the intricate nature of relationships shaped by disposability culture. He critiques the 'romance myth,' emphasizing the need for meaningful friendships and diverse connections. The conversation covers the challenges of communication in a culture of fear, the isolation many feel, and the importance of vulnerability in relationships. Spade encourages listeners to cultivate trust and self-awareness while redefining love beyond conventional norms.

This week’s guest is Dean Spade, an activist and author known for his impactful work on mutual aid and trans rights. They dive into the transformative power of communal support versus traditional charity, emphasizing how mutual aid fosters shared responsibility. Dean discusses personal finance aligning with values and how anger can drive social change. Listeners are encouraged to engage in local mutual aid initiatives, highlighting the need for empathy and emotional intelligence in building resilient communities amidst today’s challenges.