How to Survive the End of the World How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell, Together with Dean Spade
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Jun 6, 2025 
Dean Spade, a renowned queer and trans activist and author of 'Love in a Fucked Up World,' joins the discussion to explore the intersections of love, social change, and mutual aid. He delves into personal anxieties, ways to self-authorize creatively, and the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships. The conversation also critiques the 'romance myth' while advocating for deeper connections beyond romantic love. Spade encourages listeners to navigate intimacy thoughtfully, promoting empathy and community engagement in times of struggle.
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Dean's Love Letters Archive
- Dean Spade shared a personal story of sorting through decades of love letters and activist papers, evoking a mix of nostalgia and time-traveling experience.
- This illustrates the intertwining of his personal and political journey across time with friends and lovers.
Self-Authorize Your Wisdom
- Dean encourages translating helpful self-help tools for radical communities while acknowledging their limitations and biases.
- He advises self-authorizing to share one's wisdom despite doubts and potential criticism.
Romance Myth as a Spell
- The romance myth enforces the illusion that romantic and sexual relationships are uniquely essential and perfect, trapping people in controlling, isolated dynamics.
- Knowing the romance cycle helps to navigate love maturely and avoid destructive patterns and resentment.
