Luvbites by Dr. Tara The Truth About Polyamory—From a Therapist Who Knows | Dr. Tara & Nicoletta
Nov 18, 2025
Nicoletta Heidegger, a licensed therapist and certified sex educator, joins to unpack the complex world of polyamory. They explore different structures like hierarchical versus non-hierarchical setups, and dive into practical aspects like daily life in polyamorous arrangements. Topics like jealousy management, emotional work, and the distinction between rules and boundaries are discussed. Plus, they share insights on New Relationship Energy and practical tips for dating while poly, making the nuances of non-monogamy accessible and relatable.
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Polyamory Defined
- Polyamory literally means multiple loving and can be an identity or a practice.
- It describes the capacity to engage in multiple romantic committed partnerships, not necessarily current behavior.
Non-Monogamy Is An Umbrella
- 'Non-monogamy' is the umbrella term that includes open relationships, swinging, and polyamory.
- Polyamory tends to involve more committed multiple loving relationships compared with some open arrangements.
Hierarchy Vs. Non-Hierarchy
- Polyamorous structures vary: hierarchical (primary/secondary) or non-hierarchical.
- 'Nesting' or 'primary' roles often form around shared life logistics like living together or emergency contacts.
