THE MONOGAMISH MARRIAGE S1 Ep. 9: Dating Separately (Part 2)
Mar 15, 2022
Kate and Liam dive into the emotional rollercoaster of separate dating experiences, reflecting on Valentine's Day transformations. They discuss the importance of understanding attachment styles and the complexities of trust, particularly in non-monogamous relationships. The conversation addresses the struggles with insecurities and how they impact intimacy. Topics include navigating infidelity, the quest for validation, and the power of gratitude in fostering deeper connections. Ultimately, they emphasize personal growth and effective communication as keys to strengthening their bond.
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Canceling the Date to Reconnect
- Liam decided to cancel his separate date to prioritize Kate's emotional safety.
- The gesture of backing down lifted Kate's stress and allowed them to reconnect on Valentine's Day.
Attachment Styles Shape Reactions
- Attachment styles impact how partners experience non-monogamy differently.
- Liam's secure style lets him trust absences while Kate's anxious style triggers fear and insecurity.
Use "As If" Tool for Empathy
- Use the "as if" tool to empathize with your partner's feelings by imagining their formative experiences.
- This practice helps reduce blame and promotes understanding in disagreements.
