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Mentioned in 24 episodes
The All-or-Nothing Marriage
How the Best Marriages Work
Book • 2019
In this book, Eli J. Finkel presents a groundbreaking investigation of marriage, showing that the best marriages today are superior to those of earlier eras.
He combines cutting-edge scientific research with practical advice, discussing the evolution of marriage from providing basic needs like food and shelter to modern expectations of love, companionship, and personal growth.
Finkel introduces 'lovehacks' and strategies for better communication and responsiveness, and offers guidance on recalibrating expectations.
The book is designed for anyone looking to improve their marriage, from newlyweds to empty nesters, and those considering marriage or remarriage.
He combines cutting-edge scientific research with practical advice, discussing the evolution of marriage from providing basic needs like food and shelter to modern expectations of love, companionship, and personal growth.
Finkel introduces 'lovehacks' and strategies for better communication and responsiveness, and offers guidance on recalibrating expectations.
The book is designed for anyone looking to improve their marriage, from newlyweds to empty nesters, and those considering marriage or remarriage.
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Mentioned in 24 episodes
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as the author of a book discussing the evolution of marriage and the pragmatic, romantic, and self-expression phases.


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in the context of modern marriage, highlighting his research on happy marriages.


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as his bestselling book on marriage dynamics.


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when discussing the challenges and expectations of modern relationships.


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as a book by 

detailing his research on modern marriages.


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as the author of the book and an expert on relationships.


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for insights into the social psychology of marriage and how it has changed over time.


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in the context of discussing the importance of diverse relationships beyond primary partnerships.


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as a book that discusses marriage and applies it to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.


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as a book exploring how ideas of marriage have changed over time and the challenges of modern marriage.


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when discussing the calibration of expectations in relationships.


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