We've all heard by now just how important strong relationships are to our health and well-being. But a lot of the common advice and conventional wisdom out there about how to build stronger relationships doesn't end up taking us closer to that goal.My guest today has spent years sorting through what really builds better friendships, reignites love, and helps people get closer to others, and he shares these research-backed insights in his new book: Plays Well with Others: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong. Eric shares what he's learned today on the show, beginning with why we're good at figuring out someone's personality from the moment we meet them, but bad at reading their thoughts and feelings, and how to get better at the latter by making other people more readable, as well as how to make a better first impression yourself. We then turn to what makes friendship a unique relationship that makes us uniquely happy, and the two "costly signals" that most develop friendship. We also get into why friends we feel ambivalent about are actually worse for us than outright enemies. We spend the last part of our conversation on how the modern age is both the worst and the best time for marriage, and how the key to ensuring that yours is one of the happiest in history is maintaining positive sentiment override.Resources Related to the PodcastEric's previous appearance on the show: #322 — Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) WrongAoM Article & Podcast: Why Your First Impression MattersAoM Podcast: #567: Understanding the Wonderful, Frustrating Dynamic of FriendshipHow to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale CarnegieAoM Podcast #772: How Long Does It Take to Make Friends?Arthur Aron's 36 Questions That Lead to LoveThe All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work by Eli FinkelAoM Articles: Why the Secret of a Happy, Successful Marriage Is Treating It Like a Bank Account and The Best Ways to Fund Your Relationship Bank AccountAoM Article & Podcast: How and Why to Hold a Weekly Marriage MeetingConnect With Eric BarkerEric's Website

Welcome to another insightful episode of Unmistakable Creative, where we delve into the surprising science behind relationships with our esteemed guest, Eric Barker. As a renowned author and thought leader, Barker brings a fresh perspective to our understanding of relationships, challenging conventional wisdom with evidence-based insights.In this episode, Barker unravels the complexities of human relationships, drawing from his extensive research and unique approach to behavioral science. He challenges the status quo, debunking common myths and misconceptions with compelling scientific evidence. Barker's insights are not only thought-provoking but also practical, offering listeners actionable advice to improve their interpersonal relationships.Join us as we explore the fascinating world of relationships through the lens of Eric Barker. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to deepen their understanding of human connections and improve their relationships. Tune in to Unmistakable Creative for this enlightening conversation with Eric Barker, and discover why everything you thought you knew about relationships might be wrong. Subscribe for ad-free interviews and bonus episodes https://plus.acast.com/s/the-unmistakable-creative-podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

https://lewishowes.com/mindset - Order a copy of my new book The Greatness Mindset today!In today’s masterclass, four relationship experts share why 80% of relationships fail and how you can turn breakdown into breakthrough in all of your relationships.In this episode, you will learn:Esther Perel, Psychotherapist & Best-selling Author, explains how to have healthier relationships and create a new foundations for meaningful love.Gary John Bishop, New York Times Best-selling Author, shares his secret on how to thrive in a relationship and maintaining long lasting love for decades.Jillian Turecki, Certified Relationship Coach & Podcast Host, goes through the biggest relationship mistakes to avoid and how we can be accountable for our actions in our relationships.Eric Barker, Best-selling Author, “Plays Well With Others”, explains the key to finding true love and how to express our emotions in a healthy way.For more go to www.lewishowes.com/1393Full Episodes:Esther PerelGary John BishopJillian TureckiEric Barker Get more from Lewis! Pre-order my new book Make Money EasyGet The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

In this episode we ask what really produces success by looking at what separates truly successful people from the rest, we examine many common and conflicting “success maxims” and look at what the data actually says really works, we dig deep into the vital importance of knowing yourself and your own strengths, look at the power of aligning your work with your environment, and discuss the dangers of constantly overcommitting your time with Eric Barker.Eric Barker is the creator of the blog “Barking Up The Wrong Tree” - with over 290,000 subscribers.  His work is syndicated by Time Magazine, Business Insider and he has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, The New York Times and more. Just recently, his new book Barking up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong was named a Wall Street Journal Bestseller.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Eric Barker is not a people person. “Getting me to write a relationship book,” he says, “is like asking Godzilla to improve the infrastructure in your city.” But he did it anyway. Guided by leading social psychologists, Eric went on a journey to understand what he was getting wrong about relationships — and what he could do to turn things around. The result is “Plays Well With Others,” a guide to friendship, intimacy, loneliness, and belonging that our curator Daniel Pink says will “revitalize your life.”THIS AND THAT:Check out Eric’s blog, “Barking Up the Wrong Tree”Try out Arthur Aron’s intimacy building questionsDownload the Next Big Idea app

Eric Barker is the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller “Barking Up the Wrong Tree,” which has sold over half a million copies and been translated into 19 languages. Eric is also a sought-after speaker, having given talks at MIT, the Aspen Ideas Festival, Google, the United States Military Central Command, and the Olympic Training Center. His new bestseller, “Plays Well with Others,” was released in May of 2022.In this episode you will learn,The importance of having uncomfortable conversations early in your relationships.Three questions to ask yourself before you commit to a relationship.How love and relationships have evolved over generations. The difference between loneliness and solitude. For more, go to lewishowes.com/13283 Ways to Become More Desirable In Relationships [MASTERCLASS] https://link.chtbl.com/1326-pod5 Relationship Mistakes You Must Avoid to Find Deeper Connection w/ Jay Shetty [AWKWARD THERAPY] https://link.chtbl.com/1322-podWhy Emotional Agility Is The Most Important Skill You Need To Know: https://link.chtbl.com/1297-pod Get more from Lewis! Pre-order my new book Make Money EasyGet The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

Eric Barker teaches our curator Daniel Pink how to make friends, disarm marital conflicts, and spot liars.

Today we welcome Eric Barker, the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller Barking Up the Wrong Tree. His book has sold over half a million copies and has been translated into 19 languages. It was even the subject of a question on “Jeopardy!” Eric is also a sought-after speaker, having given talks at MIT, the Aspen Ideas Festival, Google, the United States Military Central Command (CENTCOM), and the Olympic Training Center. His newest book is called Plays Well with Others.In this episode, I talk to Eric Barker about relationships. We tackle the misconceptions on loneliness, marriage, and body language. Eric shares practical tips that we can apply in our own relationships such as how to keep passionate love alive and how to catch liars. We also touch on the topics of communication, vulnerability, community and health. Website: bakadesuyo.comTwitter: @bakadesuyo Topics02:18 Plays Well with Others05:11 Loneliness is perception08:38 Marriage requires crazy love and work 10:57 Gottman’s Four Horsemen of Divorce15:26 Keeping passionate love alive 19:02 Emotional endings and love maps 24:28 The Scary Rule 28:14 Dunbar’s number30:49 Parasocial relationships 35:32 Body language is overrated39:04 How to catch a liar42:11 Story of connectionSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Author Eric Barker challenges the idea of work-life balance, advocating for deliberate imbalance to excel in one area. He shares his five-hour work timer, insight on deep work, and the importance of self-awareness. Also discusses adult friendships, empathic accuracy, loneliness vs. solitude, and his newsletter/books' productivity tips.

Eric Barker, an author who challenges conventional wisdom about success and business, dives into groundbreaking insights from his book, 'Barking Up The Wrong Tree.' He explores how traditional beliefs about grades and hard work can mislead, highlighting the importance of innovation and critical thinking. Listeners will discover surprising perspectives on introversion, the true nature of effort, and the relationship between hard work and value creation. Barker's entertaining approach encourages a refreshing reconsideration of what success really means.