Eric Barker, author of the bestsellers "Barking Up the Wrong Tree" and "Plays Well with Others," dives into the complexities of relationships. He emphasizes the need for uncomfortable conversations early on and offers three critical questions to consider before committing. Barker explores how love has evolved, the distinction between loneliness and solitude, and how vulnerability can deepen connections. He also discusses the impact of social media on relationships, highlighting the balance between online and face-to-face interactions.
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Maintain Open Communication and Excitement
Have uncomfortable conversations early in your relationships.
Keep dating your partner with exciting adventures and emotional contagion.
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Love Maps and Avoiding Negative Sentiment Override
Negative sentiment override happens when lack of communication compounds negatively.
Create love maps by asking deep questions about love, happiness, and partnership.
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Define Shared Values and Create a Custom Script
Ask your partner what love, a good partner, and marriage mean to them.
Define a custom relationship script together, as modern relationships lack formal rules.
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The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong
Eric Barker
In 'Plays Well with Others,' Eric Barker challenges conventional wisdom about relationships by leveraging scientific research. The book explores various aspects of human relationships, including friendship, love, and community, and provides insights from notable researchers like Dr. John Gottman. Barker discusses how to build deeper friendships, avoid common pitfalls in romantic relationships, and cultivate meaningful connections. The book is filled with engaging stories and counterintuitive findings to help readers improve their social skills and relationships.
Never Eat Alone
And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time
Keith Ferrazzi
In 'Never Eat Alone,' Keith Ferrazzi shares his insights on networking and relationship-building, emphasizing the importance of genuine connections and mutual success. The book outlines specific steps and an inner mindset for connecting with others, highlighting principles such as generosity, constant communication, and reciprocity without keeping score. Ferrazzi draws from his own experiences and those of highly connected individuals to provide practical advice on handling rejection, attending events, and maintaining long-lasting connections in both personal and professional settings.
Eric Barker is the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller “Barking Up the Wrong Tree,” which has sold over half a million copies and been translated into 19 languages. Eric is also a sought-after speaker, having given talks at MIT, the Aspen Ideas Festival, Google, the United States Military Central Command, and the Olympic Training Center. His new bestseller, “Plays Well with Others,” was released in May of 2022.
In this episode you will learn,
The importance of having uncomfortable conversations early in your relationships.
Three questions to ask yourself before you commit to a relationship.
How love and relationships have evolved over generations.
The School of Greatness 
