We Can Do Hard Things

143. How to Set & Hold Boundaries with Melissa Urban

Oct 27, 2022

01:05:05

Episode guests

Melissa Urban

Highlights

AI Chapters

Episode notes

I Can Never Handle the TV at This Volume?

01:51

The Most Useful Tricks With LinkedIn Jobs

01:28

My Sobriety Is Dependent on Not Giving You Money

01:32

Sometimes You Just Need Permission

01:33

Introduction

2min

You Are the Right Person to Talk to Us About Boundaries

2min

I Was Born Broken. I Had a Magical Childhood

4min

I'm 26 and I've Been Addicted to Drugs for 5 Years.

3min

You Can't Offer Me Drugs Ever Again.

2min

Find the Right People to Hire on LinkedIn

2min

How to Find the Best Candidates on LinkedIn Jobs

3min

Energy Leakage

2min

The Boundary Is Controllable

4min

10.

Controlling Is Your Piss

2min

11.

I Don't Allow Smoking in the House

6min

12.

Boundaries Make People Feel Safe

2min

13.

The Importance of Boundaries in Relationships

3min

14.

Holding the Boundary

4min

15.

Is Your Sobriety Dependent on Not Giving You Money?

4min

16.

Do You Have a Boundary?

2min

17.

The Red Boundary

2min

18.

How Do I Get Help From My Best Friend?

4min

19.

The Green Level Conversation in a Romantic Relationship

2min

20.

I'm Over Capacity, I Can't Handle Event Session Today

2min

21.

The Hardest Boundary for Me to Hold

4min

22.

We Can Do Hard Things

3min

1. The top (surprising) signs that tell you it’s time to set a boundary.

2. Paying attention to “energy leakage” – when you’re giving out more than you’re getting back.

3. How to set the specific boundaries you need with in-laws, friends, and romantic partners.

4. Scripts for Melissa’s green, yellow, and red system of clear, kind communication in boundary setting.

5. Rethinking boundaries – not as not a response to someone else’s behavior – but as giving voice to your worth and health.

CW: brief mention of sexual abuse

About Melissa:

Melissa Urban is a six-time New York Times bestselling author, and her highly anticipated book, The Book of Boundaries, is available now. She is the host of the Do the Thing podcast – building community, health, and entrepreneurship, and the co-founder and CEO of Whole30. She lives in Salt Lake City, UT.

TW: @melissa_urban

IG: @melissau

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