Controlling Is Your Piss

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"I kind of color code my boundaries, green, yellow, red. Green is the gentlest kindest language," she says. "Yellow is ... this person is either forgetting or unwilling or reluctant to respect my boundary." Red is when you interrupt someone's behavior and share a consequence if it escalates.

1. The top (surprising) signs that tell you it’s time to set a boundary.

2. Paying attention to “energy leakage” – when you’re giving out more than you’re getting back.

3. How to set the specific boundaries you need with in-laws, friends, and romantic partners.

4. Scripts for Melissa’s green, yellow, and red system of clear, kind communication in boundary setting.

5. Rethinking boundaries – not as not a response to someone else’s behavior – but as giving voice to your worth and health.

CW: brief mention of sexual abuse

About Melissa:

Melissa Urban is a six-time New York Times bestselling author, and her highly anticipated book, The Book of Boundaries, is available now. She is the host of the Do the Thing podcast – building community, health, and entrepreneurship, and the co-founder and CEO of Whole30. She lives in Salt Lake City, UT.

TW: @melissa_urban

IG: @melissau

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