The Boundary Is Controllable

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Melissa's advice: Be bold enough to cause an outer conflict instead of always choosing inner conflict. "Be willing to disappoint other people before you are willing to disappoint yourself," she says. The green level boundary, the kind of entry level is I need our conversations to feel safe and productive and healthy. Sometimes you call it a fitness principle - minimum effort, maximum effect.

1. The top (surprising) signs that tell you it’s time to set a boundary.

2. Paying attention to “energy leakage” – when you’re giving out more than you’re getting back.

3. How to set the specific boundaries you need with in-laws, friends, and romantic partners.

4. Scripts for Melissa’s green, yellow, and red system of clear, kind communication in boundary setting.

5. Rethinking boundaries – not as not a response to someone else’s behavior – but as giving voice to your worth and health.

CW: brief mention of sexual abuse

About Melissa:

Melissa Urban is a six-time New York Times bestselling author, and her highly anticipated book, The Book of Boundaries, is available now. She is the host of the Do the Thing podcast – building community, health, and entrepreneurship, and the co-founder and CEO of Whole30. She lives in Salt Lake City, UT.

TW: @melissa_urban

IG: @melissau

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