Mayim Bialik's Breakdown
Dr. Sarah Schewitz: How Your Childhood Wounds Are Affecting Your Relationships
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Quick takeaways
- Interrupting conversations can lead to feelings of being unheard and devalued, impacting overall communication and relationship dynamics.
- Couples therapy is typically shorter-term compared to individual therapy, but the duration can vary based on individual needs and goals.
- Establishing a strong therapeutic alliance, informed consent, and open communication are crucial for a successful therapy experience.
Deep dives
Triggers of Interrupting Conversations
Jonathan feels triggered when conversations are interrupted, especially when someone is expressing themselves and their flow gets disrupted. He struggles with this because it affects the overall editing and he feels it restricts his opportunity to fully express himself.
Effect on Rhythm and Completion of Thoughts
Interrupting conversations impact Jonathan's ability to maintain his rhythm and fully complete his thoughts. He feels the need for a warm-up or to express additional points that may not get the chance due to interruptions.
Considerations for Editing and Choppiness
Jonathan also takes into account the editing process of the show, where interruptions can result in a choppy outcome. This adds to his frustration and desire for smoother flow in conversations.
The Importance of Feeling Heard and Valued in Communication
The podcast episode explores the significance of feeling heard and valued in communication. The speakers discuss how interruptions and editing during conversations can be upsetting and lead to feelings of unimportance or uninterest. They emphasize the importance of expressing oneself and being understood, especially in relationships. The podcast highlights the impact of past experiences on present interactions, referencing childhood experiences where one's insights or ideas were disregarded, leading to feelings of dejection. The speakers discuss their current responses to feeling unimportant, including attempts to communicate or withdrawing. They also mention the need for open communication and validation to address these dynamics.
The Process and Duration of Couples Therapy
The podcast briefly discusses the length and process of couples therapy. The speakers mention that couples therapy is typically shorter-term compared to individual therapy, ranging from 12 to 20 sessions on average. However, the duration varies based on individual needs and goals. They emphasize the importance of finding a therapist who can provide the necessary tools and guided assistance to address relationship dynamics. The podcast also highlights that couples therapy is not limited to romantic relationships and can be beneficial for any two individuals in a dialogue, such as friends or family members.
Insights on Mental Health and Therapy
The podcast episode features an interview with a licensed therapist who provides insights and tips on mental health and therapy. The therapist discusses the importance of feeling safe and comfortable with a therapist, highlighting the need for a strong therapeutic alliance. They mention the significance of informed consent and open communication between the therapist and client. The therapist also discusses various therapeutic modalities, such as psychodynamic work and cognitive-behavioral therapy, emphasizing the importance of finding a therapy approach that aligns with individual needs and goals. Additionally, the therapist provides practical techniques for managing anxiety, including controlled breathing and grounding exercises.
Mayim and Jonathan do therapy with Dr. Sarah Schewitz, licensed psychologist specializing in love & relationships! Dr. Schewitz leads a real time Imago workshop with Mayim and Jonathan to illustrate the benefits of Imago dialogue. She helps them get to the root of their podcast disagreements, from interrupting and correcting each other to cracking jokes at inappropriate moments, learning why they react the way they do. Dr. Schewitz also helps us break down healing attachment trauma, the impact of childhood wounds on relationships, and practical ways to transform communication methods. She explains why couples therapy can put an abused partner at risk and the benefits of individual therapy alongside couples therapy. Dr. Schewitz also gives us her top signs of a healthy relationship and practical tips for getting over a breakup.
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Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring the show and to Haesue Jo, Licensed Therapist and Head of Clinical Operations at BetterHelp. #ad
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