In this book, Helen Russell, a journalist and former editor of marieclaire.co.uk, relocates to rural Jutland, Denmark, to explore why Denmark is considered one of the happiest countries. The book delves into various aspects of Danish life, including childcare, education, food, interior design, and more, highlighting both the successes and shortcomings of Danish culture. It offers a mix of personal anecdotes, research, and insights into how one can benefit from adopting some Danish habits.
In *Sorry I'm Late, I Didn't Want to Come*, Jessica Pan chronicles her year of forcing herself to live as an extrovert. Pan, a self-described 'shintrovert,' was feeling lonely and depressed due to her extreme shyness and lack of social interactions. She decided to challenge herself by engaging in various daunting new experiences such as stand-up comedy, solo vacations, and networking events. The book is a humorous and sincere account of her trials, revelations, and the lessons she learned about human connection and personal growth. Pan's journey involves consulting with experts, facing her fears through exposure therapy, and ultimately forming new friendships and gaining confidence.
In *The Book of Delights*, Ross Gay offers a genre-defying volume of short, lyrical essays written over one tumultuous year. These 'essayettes,' in the manner of Montaigne, capture Gay’s daily observations and experiences, ranging from the beauty of the natural world to the complexities of race and masculinity. The book emphasizes the importance of delight as a bulwark against casual cruelties and as a way to connect with others, highlighting the shared humanity and mortality that bind us. Gay’s essays are both intimate and political, never shying away from the terrors of living in America while celebrating the small joys that make life worth observing closely[1][3][5].
In this episode, my guest is Dr. Laurie Santos, Ph.D., a professor of psychology and cognitive science at Yale University and a leading researcher on happiness and fulfillment. We discuss what truly increases happiness, examining factors such as money, social comparison, free time, alone time versus time spent with others, pets, and the surprising positive impact of negative visualizations. We also explore common myths and truths about introverts and extroverts, the science of motivation, and how to adjust your hedonic set point to experience significantly more joy in daily life. Throughout the episode, Dr. Santos shares science-supported strategies for enhancing emotional well-being and cultivating a deeper sense of meaning and happiness.
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Timestamps
00:00:00 Dr. Laurie Santos
00:02:52 Sponsors: Eight Sleep & ExpressVPN
00:06:00 Happiness, Emotion & Cognition; Emotional Contagion
00:11:18 Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Rewards
00:14:43 Money, Comparison & Happiness
00:21:39 Tool: Increase Social Connection; Real-Time Communication
00:32:16 Sponsor: AG1
00:33:47 Technology, Information, Social Interaction
00:39:22 Loneliness, Youth, Technology
00:42:16 Cravings, Sustainable Actions, Dopamine
00:47:01 Social Connection & Predictions; Introverts & Extroverts
00:57:22 Sponsors: Function & LMNT
01:00:41 Social Connection & Frequency; Tools: Fun; “Presence” & Technology
01:07:53 Technology & Negative Effects; Tool: Senses & Grounding; Podcasts
01:15:11 Negativity Bias, Gratitude, Tool: “Delight” Practice & Shifting Emotions
01:25:01 Sponsor: David
01:26:17 Importance of Negative Emotions; Judgements about Happiness
01:34:16 Happiness & Cultural Differences, Tool: Focus on Small Pleasures
01:41:00 Dogs, Monkeys & Brain, “Monkey Mind”
01:47:40 Monkeys, Perspective, Planning
01:53:58 Dogs, Cats, Dingos; Pets & Happiness
02:00:49 Time Famish; Tools: Time Affluence Breaks; Time Confetti & Free Time
02:07:46 Hedonic Adaptation; Tool: Spacing Happy Experiences
02:15:27 Contrast, Comparison & Happiness; Tool: Bronze Lining, Negative Visualization
02:24:08 Visualization, Bannister Effect; Tool: Imagine Obstacles
02:29:12 Culture; Arrival Fallacy, Tool: Journey Mindset
02:37:11 Mortality, Memento Mori, Tool: Fleeting Experiences & Contrast
02:44:33 Awe
02:48:15 Timescales; Community Engagement & Signature Strengths; Tool: Job Crafting
02:56:55 Strength Date, Leisure Time; Tool: Doing for Others, Feel Good Do Good
03:01:42 Tool: Asking for Help
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