SOLVED with Mark Manson

How to Let Go of Your Shame

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Sep 1, 2025
Dive into the deep and often avoided waters of shame, where the hosts unravel its origins and powerful influence on our lives. Explore the evolutionary roots of shame and how it manifests in areas like addiction and relationships. Discover the neurobiology behind these feelings and their impact on self-identity. Learn practical strategies to confront shame, particularly in our social media-driven world, and hear personal stories that illustrate the journey towards acceptance and growth. Embrace your shame as a stepping stone to self-discovery!
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Shame Is An Evolutionary Survival Radar

  • Shame evolved as a social survival mechanism to enforce group norms and avoid lethal ostracism.
  • That ancient radar still runs today, making us hypersensitive to social evaluation even when stakes are low.
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Healthy Shame Versus Toxic Identity Shame

  • Healthy shame motivates corrective behavior when you violate your values, while toxic shame becomes identity: "I am bad."
  • Toxic shame stops you from repairing harm and leads to withdrawal, addictions, and self-sabotage.
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Shame Feels Like Physical Pain

  • Shame activates brain regions that overlap with physical pain centers, producing full-body pain and rumination.
  • The anterior cingulate, insula, and default mode network create rapid shame spirals and long-term sensitization.
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