Therapist Vienna Pharaon discusses understanding childhood emotional needs, breaking free from ingrained patterns, and improving relationships. Topics include acknowledging past traumas, validating childhood experiences, and seeking self-worth through healing and setting boundaries.

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Vienna Pharaon, a licensed family and marital therapist, joins Sabrina to discuss the profound impact of childhood experiences, dubbed 'origin wounds,' on adult relationships. They explore how unresolved pain manifests as patterns in life and emphasize the importance of recognizing caregiver roles, even in seemingly perfect upbringings. Vienna highlights the significance of grieving these wounds to foster healing and break harmful relationship cycles. The duo underscores that all wounds, regardless of trauma size, deserve acknowledgment and can influence self-worth and connection with others.

Vienna Pharaon, a marriage and family therapist, discusses her insights on family-origin wounds. She emphasizes the importance of identifying these wounds to understand our relationship patterns. The conversation covers self-sabotage, trust issues, and the delicate balance between self-love and self-indulgence. Pharaon also shares practical wisdom for healing and breaking free from unhelpful family dynamics. Personal anecdotes highlight the transformative nature of acknowledging our past to foster healthier connections in adulthood.

Sean Illing speaks with marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon, whose new book The Origins of You aims to help us identify and heal the wounds that originated from our family, which shape our patterns of behavior in relationships and throughout our lives. Sean and Vienna talk about how we can spot and name our "origin wounds," discuss practical wisdom to help break free from the ways these pains grip us, and Sean directly confronts some real issues from his upbringing and family life.Host: Sean Illing (@seanilling), host, The Gray AreaGuest: Vienna Pharaon (@mindfulmft), marriage & family therapist; authorReferences:  The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love by Vienna Pharaon (G.P. Putnam's Sons; 2023) When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress by Dr. Gabor Maté (Wiley; 2011)  Enjoyed this episode? Rate The Gray Area ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ and leave a review on Apple Podcasts.Subscribe for free. Be the first to hear the next episode of The Gray Area. Subscribe in your favorite podcast app.Support The Gray Area by making a financial contribution to Vox! bit.ly/givepodcastsThis episode was made by:  Producer: Erikk Geannikis Engineer: Patrick Boyd Editorial Director, Vox Talk: A.M. Hall Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Vienna Pharaon, LMFT explores the origins and impact of our inner wounds. She discusses the five different origin wounds and how to identify and heal them. The podcast also covers the effects of these wounds on adult life, struggles with patterns, and reasons behind reactivity. A thought-provoking exploration of inner wounds and resilience.

Marriage and family therapist, Vienna Pharaon, joins to discuss communication, attachment, and how to determine if a relationship is fixable. They explore the impact of childhood experiences on relationships and the challenge of staying connected while staying true to oneself.

Therapist Vienna Pharaon discusses healing work and original wounds, sharing her own story. She explains how to understand and heal these wounds, stop holding yourself back in relationships, and highlights the positive side of red flags. Breakups are not failures.

Vienna Pharaon, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of 'The Origins of You,' dives deep into how childhood patterns influence adult life. She discusses healing from familial wounds and the significance of truly feeling emotions. Vienna emphasizes rebuilding self-trust and confronting grief to transform relationships. The conversation highlights the vital role of personal growth and understanding family histories in fostering compassion and emotional intelligence for the next generation. It’s a profound journey toward living and loving more freely.

Therapist Britt Frank, Kevin Miller, Terri Cole, and Vienna Pharaon discuss the benefits of taking responsibility over blame, cultural influences on accountability, self-awareness, personal growth, and the importance of defining one's narrative. They address the nuances of personal responsibility in relationships, exploring overresponsibility, high functioning codependency, emotional expression, and the shift from disempowerment to empowerment through responsibility.