The Gray Area with Sean Illing Breaking our family patterns
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Aug 12, 2024 Vienna Pharaon, a marriage and family therapist and author of 'The Origins of You,' explores how childhood experiences shape adult relationships. She explains the concept of 'origin wounds' and emphasizes the importance of self-awareness to break self-sabotaging patterns. The conversation delves into the balance between self-love and indulgence, highlighting the role of self-compassion in healing emotional pain. Vienna also shares practical wisdom for overcoming negative family dynamics and fostering healthier connections.
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Origin Wounds and Relationships
- Unresolved childhood pain surfaces in adult relationships, often repeating destructive patterns.
- Addressing these "origin wounds" within those relationships is key to healing and breaking free.
Vienna's Childhood Experience
- Vienna Pharaon shares her personal experience of suppressing emotions as a child due to her parents' high-conflict divorce.
- This pattern continued into adulthood, affecting her ability to set boundaries and express needs in relationships.
Understanding Self-Sabotage
- Examine self-sabotaging behaviors by asking what they protect you from and what past experiences they relate to.
- Understanding the underlying pain and fear driving these actions is crucial for changing them.
