Should I Stay In My Relationship, or Should I Go? With Vienna Pharaon
Oct 9, 2023
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Marriage and family therapist, Vienna Pharaon, joins to discuss communication, attachment, and how to determine if a relationship is fixable. They explore the impact of childhood experiences on relationships and the challenge of staying connected while staying true to oneself.
Balancing individual autonomy and emotional connection is possible in a committed relationship by understanding and validating each partner's needs, fears, and vulnerabilities.
Deciding whether to stay in or exit a relationship requires self-inquiry, self-reflection, open communication, and seeking support to navigate with self-awareness and understanding.
Personal healing, self-inquiry, and open communication are necessary to reclaim a sense of self and establish a strong, growth-oriented partnership in a relationship.
Deep dives
The Complexity of Marriage and Long-Term Relationships
The podcast episode explores the nuances and complexities of marriage and long-term relationships. It delves into the topic of how individual wounds and past experiences impact relationships, and the importance of addressing and resolving these wounds. The conversation includes insights on how to navigate challenging moments and conflict within a relationship, while also highlighting the significance of self-awareness, curiosity, and relational skills in fostering a healthy and fulfilling partnership.
Balancing Autonomy and Connection in Relationships
The podcast discusses the common struggle of balancing individual autonomy with emotional connection in relationships. It emphasizes the belief that staying true to oneself should not require disconnecting from a partner, and that it is possible to restore and reconnect with oneself while remaining in a committed relationship. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding and validating each partner's needs, fears, and vulnerabilities as they embark on the journey of self-discovery and growth together.
The Decision to Stay or Go in a Relationship
The podcast explores the challenges and complexities of deciding whether to stay in or exit a relationship. It emphasizes the need for self-inquiry, self-reflection, and open communication to gain clarity on one's own desires, needs, and boundaries. The episode acknowledges the wide range of factors involved, including personal healing, the impact on children if applicable, and the level of compatibility and alignment between partners. It encourages individuals to seek support, whether through therapy or self-reflection, to navigate these decisions with self-awareness and understanding.
Recovering a Sense of Self in a Relationship
The podcast delves into the experience of losing oneself in a relationship and the importance of reclaiming a sense of self. It highlights the role of personal healing and self-inquiry in order to reestablish connection with one's own desires, values, and authenticity. The conversation emphasizes the significance of open and honest communication with one's partner and the potential growth and transformation that can happen when both individuals work on personal healing and create space for each other to explore and evolve within the relationship.
Navigating Attachment Injuries and Connection in Relationships
The podcast addresses attachment injuries and their impact on relationships. It emphasizes that healing and growth can happen both through repairing attachment wounds within the relationship and through individual self-exploration. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding one's attachment patterns from childhood, as well as the need for open dialogue and curiosity about each partner's fears, needs, and experiences. It encourages creating a safe space where both individuals feel supported and valued in their personal growth and healing journey.
Jillian welcomes marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon to the show to discuss communication, attachment, and how to figure out if one's relationship is fixable or beyond repair. This is a fascinating conversation you definitely do not want to miss.
Vienna Pharaon is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought after relationship therapists. Her book The Origins of You is a National Bestseller, and she is the host of the new podcast This Keeps Happening. Follow Vienna on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook @MindfulMFT.
