The Gray Area with Sean Illing

Breaking our family patterns

Mar 2, 2023

Vienna Pharaon, a marriage and family therapist and author of "The Origins of You," delves into how our upbringing shapes our relationships. She discusses identifying 'origin wounds' and the profound impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior. Vienna shares insights on balancing self-love versus self-indulgence, the cost of authenticity, and the effects of parenthood on partnership dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the power of self-compassion in healing and breaking family patterns, providing practical wisdom for healthier connections.

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Vienna Pharaon

Highlights

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Episode notes

Reframing Self-Sabotage

00:32

Unresolved Pain and Relationships

00:43

Childhood Trust

01:30

The Evolution of Couple's Story and Challenges of Parenthood

01:03

Intro

5min

Echoes of Childhood: Impact on Adult Relationships

20min

Navigating the Balance of Self-Love and Self-Indulgence

4min

The Cost of Authenticity in Relationships

3min

Navigating Parenthood and Partnership

9min

Understanding Emotional Dynamics in Relationships

3min

Healing Through Self-Compassion

16min

Sean Illing speaks with marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon, whose new book The Origins of You aims to help us identify and heal the wounds that originated from our family, which shape our patterns of behavior in relationships and throughout our lives. Sean and Vienna talk about how we can spot and name our "origin wounds," discuss practical wisdom to help break free from the ways these pains grip us, and Sean directly confronts some real issues from his upbringing and family life.

Host: Sean Illing (@seanilling), host, The Gray Area

Guest: Vienna Pharaon (@mindfulmft), marriage & family therapist; author

References:

The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love by Vienna Pharaon (G.P. Putnam's Sons; 2023)
When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress by Dr. Gabor Maté (Wiley; 2011)

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