Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman, renowned relationship researchers and co-founders of The Gottman Institute, share their insights on love and partnership. They discuss how infidelity can sometimes catalyze growth and healing within relationships. The Gottmans also tackle the pitfalls of modern dating systems, the importance of effective communication, and the concept of the 'soulmate myth.' They delve into the dynamics of attraction, offering practical advice for maintaining intimacy and connection while navigating emotional complexities.

Renowned psychologists John and Julie Gottman share insights from their research and marriage on how to avoid a relationship apocalypse, handle conflict, and make love last. They discuss predicting divorce rates with astonishing accuracy, the concept of contempt in relationships, the value of listening and understanding in collaboration, the impact of the pandemic on relationships, exploring love languages and the importance of positive emotions, and role-playing and empathy in relationships.

Psychologists discuss the concept of closure, including its impact on memory and relationships. They explore the cognitive burden of unfinished tasks and how seeking closure can diminish negative emotions. The hosts also fact check the origins and meaning of the phrase 'Irish exit' or 'Irish goodbye'.

Renowned relationship scientists Julie and John Gottman discuss how the way couples fight can predict the future of their relationships. They emphasize the importance of healthy conflict resolution, emotional regulation, empathy, and repair attempts in maintaining strong relationships.

Exploring closure in various contexts, from random acts of kindness to the 'Irish exit'. Delving into the psychology behind unfinished tasks and the importance of addressing negative events in relationships. Discussing the allure of uncertainty, secret admirers, and the impact of forgiveness. Fact-checking phrases, memory effects, and Valentine's Day traditions. Encouraging listeners to reflect on their closure experiences and take a personality quiz.

Dr John and Dr Julie Gottman discuss how to argue better in relationships, focusing on raising complaints with partners and reacting positively. They emphasize the importance of expressing feelings, finding compromises, and addressing grievances with empathy. The podcast explores destructive communication patterns and the power of accepting influence to improve relationships.

Today, I talk to John and Julie Gottman to discuss how to strengthen relationships. Dr. Julie and John share their thoughts on why we should stop being the person who we think our partners like and start being our genuine selves, what can we do to build and/or improve intimacy with our partner, and how to deal with the changes you and your partner go through without losing the connection and stay committed to each other.  Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman is a co-founder and President of The Gottman Institute and co-founder of Affective Software, Inc. with her husband John Gottman. For over 40 years they have devoted their life to the research and practice of fostering healthy, long-lasting relationships through the training of clinicians and the creation of transformative products for couples around the world.  You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:08 What qualities should we focus on when we start dating a person? 05:25 We are always molding ourselves in accordance to someone else’s preferences 11:09 The role of self-esteem and self awareness in healthy relationships 16:57 What happens when we limit ourselves in meeting people online 24:45 Why asking a ‘big’ question is important in building intimacy? 28:27 How do you deal with your partner and the constant changes they go through? 33:36 Finding new ways to stay connected with your partner 38:58 This is why you need to focus more on the positive aspects of your relationship 42:57 Expressing gratitude and explaining why you’re thankful ads more depth to the moment 50:00 Is there a way to know if a relationship can last?    Episode Resources The Gottman Institute The Gottman Institute | Facebook The Gottman Institute | Instagram The Gottman Institute | YouTube The Gottman Institute | Twitter The Gottman Institute | Books Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kelly Corrigan, a bestselling author and podcaster, joins renowned couples psychologists Julie and John Gottman to discuss the courage required in relationships. They delve into the intricate dynamics of love, vulnerability, and conflict, exploring how authentic connections can weather life's storms. The Gottmans share insights from their research on couple dynamics, while Corrigan reflects on empathy and support in family relationships. Together, they emphasize the importance of navigating desires and building chosen families as essential elements of bravery in love.

For decades, renowned psychologists John and Julie Gottman have studied–and guided–healthy relationships. They share insights from their research–and their marriage–on how to avoid a relationship apocalypse, handle conflict, and make love last. Their latest book, “The Love Prescription” is out now, and Adam has a field day getting them to demonstrate the differences between good and bad fights.For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/RWAG13 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Drs John and Julie Gottman have been researching why relationships last for the past 40 years. In this snippet they tell me the key things that predict a happy or unhappy relationship. Listen to the full episode here 👉 https://open.spotify.com/episode/5K9Kdqjg3obCVTwhKofE4T?si=CrQI6AaZTeK4iekMIzqryA🔗 CONNECT WITH JOHN AND JULIE📕 The Seven Day Love Prescription📱 The Gottman Card Decks App💻 Website🐦 Twitter📸 Instagram🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI🎥 YouTube Channel🐦 Twitter📸 Instagram💻 Website👥 LinkedinIf you enjoy listening to the podcast, please do leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts - even one line helps! You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, thoughts from the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏Check out the episode on the Deep Dive YouTube Channel.See privacy policy at https://transistor.fm/privacy