A guide to being brave in relationships

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Nov 1, 2024

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Kelly Corrigan, a bestselling author and podcaster, joins renowned couples psychologists Julie and John Gottman to discuss the courage required in relationships. They delve into the intricate dynamics of love, vulnerability, and conflict, exploring how authentic connections can weather life's storms. The Gottmans share insights from their research on couple dynamics, while Corrigan reflects on empathy and support in family relationships. Together, they emphasize the importance of navigating desires and building chosen families as essential elements of bravery in love.

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ADVICE

Stealing Satisfaction

When someone shares a problem, resist the urge to offer immediate solutions.
Instead, encourage them to explore their feelings and arrive at their own answers.

ADVICE

Seven Magic Words

Practice active listening by saying "Tell me more," "Go on," or "What else?"
Create emotional hospitality, making loved ones feel heard and understood.

ANECDOTE

A Father's Regrets

Kelly Corrigan shares a touching anecdote about her dying father's regrets.
By simply listening and prompting him to share more, she provided him comfort and peace.

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