The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

411: Reparenting and Attachment with Dr. Judy Ho

Aug 23, 2024

Dr. Judy Ho, a neuropsychologist and tenured professor at Pepperdine University, dives into the cycles of attachment and childhood influences on adult behavior. She highlights how understanding early attachments can break negative patterns. The conversation covers the importance of self-talk and inner child work in fostering personal growth. They also explore various attachment styles and their fluidity, emphasizing that healing is a continuous journey. With actionable insights from her book, Dr. Ho encourages listeners to nurture their inner child for healthier relationships.

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Quick takeaways

Understanding attachment theory is crucial for identifying and breaking repetitive negative relationship patterns rooted in childhood experiences.

Engaging in inner child work helps individuals address unmet emotional needs and fosters healing by reconnecting with feelings of love and security.

Practicing self-compassion enables individuals to overcome guilt associated with childhood patterns, promoting healthier relationships with themselves and others.

Deep dives

Understanding Cycles of Behavior

Many individuals find themselves stuck in repetitive cycles, struggling despite employing various self-help strategies. They may develop better coping mechanisms, yet continue to attract negative situations, such as unhealthy relationships. This persistence can be attributed to deep-rooted attachment styles formed during childhood, which influence adult behavior. Acknowledging these patterns is crucial to making significant changes in their personal lives.

Intro

2min

Balancing Life and Mental Health

13min

Embracing Self-Care and Understanding Attachment

2min

Understanding Attachment Styles

15min

The Interplay of Self-Talk and Attachment in Personal Growth

5min

Healing Through Inner Child Work

12min

Healing the Inner Child

13min

Breaking Cycles: How Attachment Shapes Our Lives with Dr. Judy Ho

In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, host Dr. Duff interviews neuropsychologist Dr. Judy Ho, a tenured professor at Pepperdine University and author of 'The New Rules of Attachment.' They discuss why people often find themselves stuck in repetitive cycles despite different strategies and self-care routines. Dr. Ho explains the significance of revisiting one's past to break patterns, diving deep into attachment theory. They explore how early attachments form who we are, why it's essential to recognize childhood traumas, and the role of self-talk in attachment styles. Dr. Ho also shares her personal parenting insights and the importance of forming a secure attachment with oneself. Additionally, they delve into actionable exercises from Dr. Ho's book that help uncover unmet needs of our inner child and promote lasting change. Tune in for an in-depth conversation about the transformative power of understanding and healing our attachments.

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Links!

https://www.amazon.com/New-Rules-Attachment-Relationships-Reparent/dp/1538741423

https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho

https://drjudyho.com/

00:00 Introduction: Breaking the Cycle

00:40 Meet Dr. Judy Ho

01:14 The Importance of Early Attachments

02:46 Personal Stories and Apologies

05:47 Journey into Psychology

18:10 Understanding Attachment Styles

30:11 Understanding Attachment Styles and Self-Talk

31:27 The Challenge of Changing Self-Talk

32:26 The Importance of Patience in Forming New Habits

33:14 Recognizing Overthinking and OCD

35:07 The Mind-Body Connection in Attachment

37:25 Inner Child Work and Self-Attachment

40:22 Practical Steps for Inner Child Healing

44:45 A Real-Life Transformation Story

53:22 Balancing Career and Personal Life

57:04 Parenting and Attachment

01:00:08 Looking Ahead: Future Plans and Reflections

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