The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos Feel Like You're Enough
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Jan 6, 2025 
Ellen Hendriksen, a clinical psychologist and author, specializes in helping people combat perfectionism. In a candid discussion, she explores the emotional toll of striving for perfection, emphasizing that it often leads to feelings of failure and shame. Hendriksen shares practical strategies for fostering self-acceptance and healing from self-criticism. Listeners learn how to embrace vulnerabilities, rediscover joy in everyday activities, and shift their focus from rigid expectations to authentic self-worth.
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Perfectionism Misunderstood
- Perfectionism is often misunderstood as striving for perfection.
- It's actually about the feeling of never being good enough, leading to failure and shame.
Burnout Experience
- Ellen Hendriksen experienced burnout due to perfectionism, manifesting physically with GI issues and muscle tightness.
- It also impacted her relationships, as she realized she'd neglected her friends.
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Perfectionism
- Healthy perfectionism, driven by conscientiousness, can lead to excellence and a good life.
- Unhealthy perfectionism arises from over-evaluation, where self-worth is tied to performance.
