The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos

Laurie Santos, a Yale professor and happiness expert, joins Ryan Holiday to explore the intersection of Stoicism and happiness. They discuss how embracing our mortality can lead to a more meaningful life through the concept of memento mori. Santos shares personal anecdotes and insights into how acceptance of life's challenges cultivates resilience and deeper fulfillment. The conversation also touches on the importance of mindfulness and finding joy amidst adversity, illustrating how these ancient teachings can be applied in today's world.

In this engaging discussion, Michelle Hastie Thompson, a Psychology PhD student and professional cornhole player, shares her journey of resilience after a wildfire devastated her home. She reveals how cornhole became a surprising source of comfort and community during tough times. The conversation delves into the psychological benefits of play, highlighting how cornhole fosters social connections and promotes mindfulness. With anecdotes about camaraderie and healthy competition, Michelle encourages everyone to embrace fun activities for greater happiness and well-being.

In this engaging discussion, cellist and composer Joshua Roman, known for his performances with major orchestras, shares his emotional journey through long COVID. He delves into how music acts as a therapeutic tool during tough times, emphasizing resilience and the joy of rediscovering his connection with the cello. Joshua reflects on pivotal moments in his life, from his childhood passion for music to the challenges of returning to the stage, highlighting the deep bond between artist and instrument and the healing power of creativity.

In this discussion, actor Lili Taylor, known for her roles in 'Say Anything' and 'Six Feet Under', shares how birdwatching has become her sanctuary from the pressures of acting. She delves into the emotional toll of her career and how nature’s beauty fosters mindfulness and joy. Lili passionately describes the transformative power of observing birds, highlighting their ability to evoke awe and connection. Listeners will discover how birding nurtures personal well-being and encourages a deeper appreciation for life's fleeting moments.

Etiquette expert William Hanson, author of Just Good Manners and host of Help I Sexted My Boss, reveals how good manners enhance our happiness and strengthen relationships. He shares the historical evolution of etiquette, emphasizing its role in social interactions. Listeners learn about the practical aspects of dining etiquette, how small gestures can create memorable gatherings, and the psychological benefits of practicing gratitude. Williams highlights that thoughtful engagement fosters joy, making etiquette a timeless antidote for modern disconnection.

Elias Weiss Friedman, known as The Dogist, shares how dogs transformed his life and career after losing his job. He reveals the comfort and joy dogs provide, emphasizing their role in emotional healing and connection. Elias discusses the profound bond between humans and dogs, scientific benefits of companionship, and the community fostered by sharing dog stories. He highlights the importance of adopting mixed-breed dogs and how they inspire us to be our best selves, all while promoting happiness and authentic relationships.

In this conversation, bestselling author Mel Robbins shares her insights on letting go of perfectionism and the grip of people-pleasing. She discusses how childhood experiences influence our need for control in relationships. Mel emphasizes the power of two simple phrases: 'Let them' and 'Let me,' which promote self-care and personal boundaries. By reflecting on personal stories, she highlights the transformative impact of these words and encourages listeners to embrace imperfection for a happier, more authentic life.

In this discussion, Jonathan Haidt, a social psychologist and author of The Anxious Generation, delves into the troubling effects of smartphones on youth, linking them to declining mental health and sleep issues. Jill Murphy, Chief Content Officer at Common Sense Media, provides strategies for parents to balance technology's role in their children's lives. Together, they tackle the paradox of increased digital connectivity contributing to social isolation and poor emotional well-being, while advocating for proactive parenting in the digital age.

David Yeager, a developmental psychologist and author of '10 to 25', shares insights into understanding young people's behavior. He argues that instead of punishing children for disruptive actions, adults should explore the motivations behind these behaviors—like social status or peer connection. Yeager emphasizes the importance of empathetic communication and teaching emotional skills, advocating for autonomy and problem-solving in children. By fostering curiosity and respectful dialogue, parents can build better relationships and help kids navigate challenges effectively.

Clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy, founder of Good Inside and a mother of three, believes every child is "good inside" despite bad behavior. She discusses the importance of setting clear boundaries while understanding children's emotions. By allowing kids to express disappointment, sadness, or frustration, parents can help them build resilience. Dr. Kennedy shares playful strategies to nurture curiosity and emotional regulation, encouraging a more supportive and understanding parenting approach.