The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos The Two Words That Saved Mel Robbins (From A Slight Change of Plans)
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Jun 6, 2025 
In this conversation, bestselling author Mel Robbins shares her insights on letting go of perfectionism and the grip of people-pleasing. She discusses how childhood experiences influence our need for control in relationships. Mel emphasizes the power of two simple phrases: 'Let them' and 'Let me,' which promote self-care and personal boundaries. By reflecting on personal stories, she highlights the transformative impact of these words and encourages listeners to embrace imperfection for a happier, more authentic life.
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Childhood Control Through Others
- As a child, Mel Robbins tried to control others' moods to feel safe and avoid trouble.
- This mindset meant she believed her safety depended on others being happy or not disappointed.
Mel's Financial Rock Bottom
- Mel faced $800,000 debt, job loss, and family stress during the Great Recession.
- She coped by drinking, anger, avoidance, and feeling paralyzed by lack of control.
"Let Them" Moment at Prom
- At her son's prom, Mel's daughter told her "let them" to stop micromanaging.
- This phrase gave Mel immediate peace and a new perspective on control.
