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May 18, 2022

In this engaging conversation, Dr. Jacob Ham, a clinical expert in trauma, shares profound insights from his work at the Center for Child Trauma and Resilience. He discusses the importance of therapeutic relationships and how feeling seen can aid healing. Dr. Ham explains the significance of mentalization and the balance between self-love and love for others. He intriguingly connects the Incredible Hulk to our emotional struggles, highlighting the need for compassion and vulnerability in therapy, ultimately paving the way for deeper personal growth.

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The work is deeply moving and complex

01:18

Verbal Use as Affection and Playful Provocations

01:02

Managing Anger: Putting the Hulk in Context

01:18

Intro

5min

Challenging Traditional Therapy Approaches

2min

Navigating Childhood Trauma and Healing

10min

Reinventing Therapy Through Connection

13min

Exploring Love, Time, and Personal Suffering

2min

Exploring Vulnerability and Connection

16min

Harnessing the Hulk Within

8min

The Compassionate Art of Being Seen

5min

Navigating Emotions in Conversations

15min

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Sometimes part of healing trauma means learning how to be human.

This episode is the last episode of our Mental Health Reboot series to mark Mental Health Awareness Month. Dr. Jacob Ham, who was introduced in Stephanie Foo’s episode earlier this week, helped Stephanie through her case of complex PTSD and discusses how to live with the hardest things that have happened to you.

Dr. Ham is the Director of the Center for Child Trauma and Resilience and Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai. He sees children, youth, adults, and families across the age range and for a variety of issues.

In this episode we talk about:

What Dr. Ham says may be the “most important thing he’s discovered” as a therapist
Why he shuts down his clients’ attempts to intellectualize their experiences
Kairos versus kronos
Why Dr. Ham says the Incredible Hulk is so important to him
The concept of mentalization
What it means to love exquisitely
And whether or not we have to learn to love ourselves before we can learn to love others

Content Warning: Explicit language.

Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jacob-ham-453