
“You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)
This is the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast) and I’m your host, Jen Kirkman.
Has anyone ever said to you, "Um, you're kind of a lot?" If they have this podcast is your new favorite show. Welcome to You Are a Lot in ADHD, AuDHD podcast. I'm your host Jen Kirkman. On this show, I talk about my personal experience of my later in-life diagnosis as an AuDHD human. That is ADHD and Autism Spectrum Disorder. I discuss the latest research and I aim to create an affirming lesson from neurodivergent people, helping us all to feel less confused, more connected, and as a result, fully validated.
Latest episodes

Mar 4, 2024 • 40min
EPISODE 13 “YOU’RE WRONG ABOUT ADHD”
In this episode: Jen helps everyone get their facts straight about ADHD and debunks the “alternative facts” that are out there such as: ADHD is not a real medical issue, everyone has ADHD, ADHD is overdiagnosed, and taking ADHD medication is dangerous and addictive. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: “… Myth That Those With ADHD Need To Change” (Article) - ADDITUDE MAG 9 Myths That Perpetuate ADHD Stigma (Article) - ADDITUDE MAG ADHD Myths & Misunderstandings (Article) - CHADD ORG 7 Common Myths About ADHD (Video) - DR. TRACEY MARKS YOU TUBE ADHD Is Not ‘Overdiagnosed’ (Article) THE CONVERSATION WEBSITE

Feb 26, 2024 • 41min
EPISODE 12 "ADHD OR NARCISSISM?"
In this episode: Jen talks about the similarities on the surface between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and ADHD but breaks down the major differences between the neurological developmental disorder (ADHD) and the personality disorder (NPD). For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: ADHD & NPD: How Similar Are They? (Article) - Psych Central The Complex Relationship b/w ADHD & Personality Disorders (Article) - Medium Know The Differences: ADHD & Narcissism (Article) - Psychology Today Correlations b/w ADHD & Narcissism (Medical Review) - Choosing Therapy

Feb 19, 2024 • 39min
EPISODE 11 “RECOGNITION RESPONSE EUPHORIA (RRE)”
This week: Jen talks about the little known flip-side of Rejection Sensitivity known as Recognition Response Euphoria (RRE) coined by Dr. Ned Hallowell. RRE is a euphoric and motivating feeling experienced by an ADHD-er who has been praised or encouraged - and how this is an important part of combating despair and maintaining resilience as a neurodivergent in a neurotypical world. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Flip Side of ADHD RSD: Energy & Motivation (Video) - Dr. Ned Hallowell Divergent Psychology - Article The Default Mode Network & ADHD - LA Concierge Psychologist Recognition Response Euphoria (RRE) - Dr. Ned Hallowell Dr. John Ratey Website Dr. Ned Hallowell Website

Feb 12, 2024 • 3min
“You Are A Lot” Podcast HIATUS WEEK ANNOUNCEMENT
For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com For More Info on Jen

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Feb 5, 2024 • 36min
EPISODE 10 “RSD: REJECTION SENSITIVITY DYSPHORIA”
Jen discusses Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD), a condition affecting 98% of individuals with ADHD, characterized by an intense emotional response to perceived rejection. She shares her personal experiences and physical sensations related to RSD, making listeners feel less alone. The podcast also delves into the psychological impact of RSD, including feelings of inadequacy and shame, and offers insights and coping strategies for managing these overwhelming emotions. It's an enlightening conversation that highlights the importance of awareness and support.

Jan 29, 2024 • 49min
EPISODE 9 “TRAUMA & ADHD”
This week: Jen talks about scientific studies on the links between ADHD and trauma. ADHD is not caused by childhood trauma but having ADHD in childhood can cause trauma which changes the chemistry of the brain. It’s complex, nuanced and a great example of “correlation does not equal causation.” For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Adult ADHD & Trauma. Is There A Link? - Psychology Today The Link Between ADHD & Trauma - Medical News Today Why Gabor Mate is Wrong About ADHD & Trauma (Video) - Dr. Russell Barkley Childhood Trauma & ADHD - ADDitude Magazine ADHD & Trauma: Symptoms & Treatments - ADDitude Magazine

Jan 22, 2024 • 60min
EPISODE 8 “EMOTIONAL INTENSITY PART 2: SOLUTIONS”
In this episode: Jen talks provides some expert methods to handle intense emotions. Topics include - building emotional resiliency, naming feelings, how to interrupt a possible blowup, and working with your ADHD nervous system. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can start with a 7-day-free-trial today! CLICK HERE to leave a five-star review for this podcast CLICK HERE for more ways to listen to the podcast Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the “YOU ARE A LOT” (an adhd podcast) webpage For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Deficient Emotional Self Regulation (Video) - Dr. Russell Barkley Build Your Emotional Resilience (Video) - Dr. Tamara Rosier Coping with Anxiety & Adult ADHD (Video) - Dr. Russell Ramsay 15 Ways to Disarm & Understand ADHD Emotions - ADDitude Magazine Coping With Heightened Emotions - Psychology Today The Feelings Wheel

Jan 15, 2024 • 55min
EPISODE 7 “EMOTIONAL INTENSITY PART 1”
In this episode: Jen talks about her personal experience with being emotionally intense and lashing out without understanding what was going on in her brain. Jen explains the science behind the ADHD brain and how/why neurodivergent brains get flooded, experience meltdowns, shutdowns, sadness, low self-esteem, getting carried away with emotion and not being able to tolerate feeling many emotions at once. Also explained: how emotions filter through a neurotypical brain and how they get jammed up in a filterless ADHD brain. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Dr. William Dodson You Tube - Overlooked Symptoms of ADHD Dr. Russell Barkley You Tube - Deficient Emotional Self-Regulation ADHD Aware Magazine - Emotions & ADHD ADDitude Magazine: Exaggerated Emotions - How ADHD Triggers Intensity CHADD Website - Emotions Too Much? Could Be ADHD VeryWellMind Website - Understanding Hypersensitivity in ADHD Addept (Thriving With ADHD) Website - Emotional Flooding

Jan 8, 2024 • 38min
EPISODE 6 “WHAT DO I DO?”
In this episode: Jen gives her thoughts on what to do once you think you might have ADHD from how to get a diagnosis, shop for a therapist or psychiatrist or coach, and how to advocate for yourself when supposed professionals aren’t that up-to-speed on the most current ADHD findings. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can start with a 7-day-free-trial today! CLICK HERE to leave a five-star review for this podcast CLICK HERE for more ways to listen to the podcast Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the “YOU ARE A LOT” (an adhd podcast) webpage For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: FOCUSED ADHD COACHING - with Kristen Carder PSYCH CENTRAL - How To Get An ADHD Diagnosis CHADD - Contact An ADHD Specialist ADD.ORG - Finding an ADHD Coach PSYCHOLOGY TODAY - Find a Psychiatrist or Therapist DR. RUSSELL BARKLEY VIDEO - How To Treat ADHD ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - Assessing an ADHD Clinician ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - Find an ADHD Clinic ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - Who Can Diagnose ADHD? ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - Self Diagnose Test for Inattentive ADHD ADDITUDE MAGAZINE - Self Diagnose ADD Test for Women HELP GUIDE - ADHD Medications for Adults & Children

Jan 1, 2024 • 36min
EPISODE 5 "NEW YEAR, SAME YOU"
In this episode: Jen talks about how New Year’s Resolutions don’t work with her ADHD, gives advice on how NOT to make resolutions, how not to set yourself up to fail, get out of fantasy and accept yourself, and rethinking how to see your year ahead. For exclusive podcast content join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $5 a month. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: CHADD WEBSITE - Pick A New Year’s Theme Instead ADDEPT WEBSITE - Resolution Strategies for ADHD Brains