“You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)

In this episode: Did you know that people with ADHD/AuDHD are vulnerable to ending up in toxic relationships (of all kinds)? You are not broken and neither is your “picker”. There is science behind this. It’s due to our issues with communication, impulsivity, low self-esteem, and that old need for dopamine! This episode may make you feel sane and help your confusion as to how you got here - especially if you don’t have any “big T” trauma in your upbringing.   SHOW NOTES: For bonus episodes, transcripts, captioned videos, live online events with Jen, a private chat community and more - go GET A LOT in the “You Are a LOT” podcast Patreon community. Start with a 7-day-free-trial at any level, and when you join take 15% off if you subscribe annually. 7 Day Free Patreon Trial Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Subscribe to the “This Is A Lot” Newsletter Shop Jen’s Digital Download Guides For ADHD Shop Jen’s Amazon Storefront for ADHD supplies! Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an ADHD/AuDHD Podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com   SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: The Gaslighting Risk For Adults With ADHD Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative And Emotionally Abusive People Why Do Toxic Relationships Swallow People With ADHD? Autistic People Might Be More Susceptible To Abusive Romantic Relationships Alexithymia & Manipulation

Delve into the intriguing world of Justice Sensitivity, especially for those with ADHD and AuDHD. Discover how intense feelings of fairness and injustice shape daily life, relationships, and self-perception. Hear personal stories about navigating bullying and the quest for acceptance, along with emotional challenges in educational settings. Explore the complexities of emotional overwhelm and learn effective strategies for managing reactions to perceived injustices, underscoring the importance of self-care and mental health.

In episode 31: Jen talks about the very real psychological issue of feeling like an imposter despite our accomplishments. While this can happen to neurotypicals as well, especially in a career context, ADHD humans walk around feeling this way consistently.  We can feel like a secret failure at just LIFE itself, and since having ADHD erodes self-trust, we also feel like imposters if we don’t seem “ADHD or AuDHD enough”.  - For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $6.99 a month and 15% off if you pay annually. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on TikTok   SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: A Neuroscientific Exploration of Self-Doubt and Success How to Counteract Imposter Syndrome Overcoming Imposter Syndrome with ADHD All About Imposter Syndrome Overcoming Imposter Syndrome The 3 C’s Model For Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

In this episode: Jen talks about how ADHD humans can withdraw from friendships due to our “out of sight, out of mind” brains despite loving our friends and gives advice on how we can maintain our friendships. For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $6.99 a month and 15% off if you pay annually. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: The Buddy System ADHD, Women & Emotional Withdrawal The ADHD Friendship Paradox ADHD “Out of Sight Out of Mind” Object Permanence

In this episode:  Jen talks about the pros and cons of hyperfocus. Pro: In a hyperfocus we are working at our optimal ability. Con: Too much hyperfocus and we’re neglecting our basic needs and the needs of people in our lives. Also, Jen talks about why she thinks that “flow” and “hyperfocus” are two different states of being. For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $6.99 a month and 15% off if you pay annually. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Recovering From Hyperfocus Burnout (article) The Good, The Bad, The Ugly of Hyperfocus (article) Hyperfocus In Adults: Dr. Ned Hallowell Flow State VS. Hyperfocus (article)

Jen, a passionate advocate for ADHD awareness, dives deep into the complexities of living with this neuro-developmental disorder. She discusses the misconceptions surrounding ADHD traits, clarifying that they aren't character flaws but neurological differences. Jen shares personal experiences of being labeled as 'lazy' and 'rude,' and highlights the impact of these labels on self-esteem. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-advocacy and educating others on ADHD, fostering understanding and empathy in both social and professional settings.

In this episode: Jen talks about the concept that ADHD Humans have an “Interest Based Nervous System” as opposed to Neurotypicals who have an “Importance Based Nervous System.” Basically, ADHD Humans are not motivated by the fact that they know that something is important to them or someone else, but they are motivated by their interest in a project or task, the novelty of it all, whether it’s a challenge or creates a competitive feeling and a sense of urgency. ADHD Humans have to figure out their own road map for their brains when they have to make something interesting that they’re not interested in.  For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $6.99 a month and 15% off if you pay annually. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: The ADHD Manual Secrets of the ADHD Brain - ADDitude Magazine ADHD Motivation Problems - ADDitude Magazine A Simple Framework To Hack Your Productivity - Medcircle

In this episode: Jen answers a listener's email about a philosophical crisis of self. Is our personality, our interests, our attitudes and sense of self just ADHD? How can we tell the difference?  For exclusive podcast bonus episodes, transcripts, a chat community and more, join the You Are A Lot podcast on Patreon at patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD for just $6.99 a month and 15% off if you pay annually. You can sign up for a 7 Day Free Trial today! Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen

In this episode: Jen answers two listener emails about how to stop with the negative self-talk after failing to complete tasks and feeling overwhelmed, and how (and if) to tell a new boss that you have Rejection Sensitivity and might need future feedback to be more gentle. Listen to “YOU ARE A LOT” (an adhd podcast) FREE on any podcast app. For bonus content join the podcast Patreon at $6.99 a month or 15% off annually. You can start with a 7-day-free-trial today! CLICK TO JOIN PATREON - http://patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod@gmail.com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: Newly diagnosed with ADHD? Subscribe free to ADDitude Magazine online.

In this episode: Jen talks about the word “procrastivity” and why ADHD humans love to do every task other than what they set out to work on. And the problem of not even being able to get started due to what’s known as “front end perfectionism” where the entire day goes by and we’ve spent it preparing to do our tasks or work - not by actually preparing anything related, but by “organizing” our space, and “getting ready to get ready. There will be some helpful tips in this episode about how to actually begin your project without procrastivity or perfectionism. Listen to “YOU ARE A LOT” (an adhd podcast) FREE on any podcast app. For bonus content join the podcast Patreon at $6.99 a month. You can start with a 7-day-free-trial today! If you sign up for one year you get 15% off. CLICK TO JOIN PATREON - http://patreon.com/ALOTADHDPOD Click here to write a 5-star review of the podcast Visit the “You Are A Lot” (an adhd podcast) webpage Send an email to the podcast at alotadhdpod at gmail dot com Follow Jen on Instagram Follow Jen on Tik Tok For More Info on Jen SOURCES USED FOR THIS EPISODE: PROCRASTINATION QUIZ - ADDitude Magazine OUTSMART PROCRASTINATION & IMPROVE PRODUCTIVITY - You Tube 18 WAYS NOT TO PROCRASTINATE - Article on Healthline