The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Navigating parenting can feel overwhelming, especially when it seems like you're rewarding bad behavior. The discussion challenges common beliefs by exploring how connection and co-regulation can actually help children develop healthier coping mechanisms. It also emphasizes the importance of feeling safe to avoid future dysregulation. Plus, the podcast highlights valuable resources and community support for parents and professionals, paving the way for transformative strategies in managing tricky behaviors.

Explore the nuances of intensive parenting and uncover the difference between 'hard' and 'too hard' for both parents and kids. Delve into the emotional toll on parents and learn strategies for offering support while establishing vital boundaries. Gain insights into fostering children's success in educational settings through co-regulation and understanding their needs. Discover the importance of self-compassion and connection in parenting, especially when navigating the challenges of parenting sensitive children.

The discussion emphasizes how the nervous system shapes children's behavior. Parents learn about 'felt safety' and its connection to trauma, highlighting the importance of environment and relationships. Key insights into neuroception reveal how kids assess their safety, influencing their actions. The conversation also stresses the need for compassion and connection in parenting, offering resources to help tackle behavioral challenges. It's a thoughtful journey into understanding the underlying mechanisms that impact children's development.

Many parents feel like their kids are intentionally sabotaging situations, but there's a deeper neuroscience at play. Understanding these baffling behaviors offers hope rather than frustration. The podcast delves into how sensitive children may not be manipulative but are instead seeking emotional support. It emphasizes the importance of co-regulation and emotional healing, encouraging parents to respond in ways that can positively influence their child's development.

Exploring the hard truths of personal change, the discussion emphasizes that relying on external forces for support often leads to frustration. Listeners are encouraged to embrace their own agency in the journey toward healing and self-acceptance. The conversation touches on the complexities of vulnerability and the emotional challenges faced in relationships, while also highlighting the significance of personal accountability. Gratitude for community support underscores the importance of fostering self-love and growth.

Rose LaPiere, LPC, RPT-S, and ACS, a play therapist and co-leader in the immersive training program 'Being With,' dives into the profound world of grief. She emphasizes the importance of authenticity and playfulness in processing difficult emotions, particularly for children. The discussion covers how grief manifests across generations and the need for open communication in families. Rose also highlights the critical role of self-compassion for both parents and therapists while navigating the complexities of loss and joy together.

You’ve lowered stress and demands. You’ve reframed your child’s behavior as a response from their autonomic nervous system. You’ve worked hard to help your child’s stress response system rest and begin to healNow what?In this episode, you’ll learnHow rest is only one part of the healing processThe importance of reintroducing stressThe difference between stress that prompts growth and stress that leads to injury and burn-outResources mentioned in this podcast:Stress Response System {EP 94}Scaffolding Felt Safety {EP 205}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/RaiseTheBarApplications for the 2026 cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program are now open! You MUST be on the waiting list to apply! Get on the waiting list at RobynGobbel.com/immersion :::Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/bookJoin us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClubApply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/ImmersionFollow Me On:FacebookInstagram Over on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)LOTS & LOTS of FREE ResourcesOngoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Jon Fogel is a dad who combined his passion for parenting, neuroscience, and impacting the world to create a viral social media account (@wholeparent) and then to publish his book, Punishment-Free Parenting. Jon and I get lost in some pretty deep topics together, including How he helps parents make huge parenting shiftsHow parenting with punishment relies on a pretty pessimistic view of humanityBoundaries vs. Consequences vs. PunishmentsResources mentioned in this podcast:Punishment Free Parenting by Jon FogelJon’s Instagram: Whole ParentDive into these topics further on past Baffling Behavior Show episodesBoundaries Series (ep. 111, 113, & 115)Ep. 56: But what about a consequenceEp. 134 What if Trauma Informed Isn’t? Ep. 54: Has Trauma Informed Become another Behavior Modification Technique?Ep. 30: Trauma Behavior? Or just acting up?Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/punishmentfreeApplications for the 2026 cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program are now open! You MUST be on the waiting list to apply! Get on the waiting list at RobynGobbel.com/immersion :::The All-About-Me workbook will help your child grow their owl brain and develop ways to calm their watchdog and possum brain. 24 page, full-color, instant download at RobynGobbel.com/store :::Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/bookJoin us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClubApply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/ImmersionFollow Me On:FacebookInstagram Over on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)LOTS & LOTS of FREE ResourcesOngoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Explore the vital concept of felt safety and how it can be scaffolded for children who have experienced trauma. Discover the connection between personal recovery from injury and the emotional needs of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. Unpack the complexities of rebuilding trust and safety post-trauma, paralleling adult rehabilitation with children’s emotional journeys. This engaging discussion highlights the significance of relationships in fostering a safe environment, inspiring hope for navigating challenging family dynamics.

Play makes kids stronger. It’s necessary for their physical and emotional development, and even their academic development. Play helps kids work through and make sense of hard things. A few months ago I went searching for a resource that teaches parents some of skills I used as a play therapist because I am passionate about breaking down barriers and teaching these skills to as many adults as possible- not just therapists. Tina Payne Bryson’s newest book (co-authored with Georgie Wisen-Vincent), The Way of Play, is exactly this resource. It was a delight to connect with Dr. Payne Bryson and get a sneak peek into her new book, The Way of Play.In this episode, you’ll learnWhy play is so importantThe 7 Strategies in PlayStrong ParentingHow to Bring Emotions to LifeHow to Make Yourself a MirrorResources mentioned in this podcast:Dr. Tina Payne Bryson’s websiteThe Way of Play new book- preorder by January 20The Way of Play PreOrder Bonus Virtual Event Registration Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/wayofplayApplications for the 2026 cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program are now open! You MUST be on the waiting list to apply! Get on the waiting list at RobynGobbel.com/immersion :::The All-About-Me workbook will help your child grow their owl brain and develop ways to calm their watchdog and possum brain. 24 page, full-color, instant download at RobynGobbel.com/store :::Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/bookJoin us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClubApply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/ImmersionFollow Me On:FacebookInstagram Over on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)LOTS & LOTS of FREE ResourcesOngoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)