The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Dive into the fascinating world of children's behavior through the lens of the nervous system! Discover what the 'owl,' 'watchdog,' and 'possum' brains mean for your child's actions. Learn how to recognize which brain state is at play, and understand why calming these protective responses is essential. Instead of fixing behavior, the focus is on providing connection and safety. With practical insights and strategies, this discussion offers parents valuable tools to nurture their child's growth and emotional well-being.

If you’ve clicked on this episode because you’re feeling like you're failing—at parenting, at keeping it together, at helping your child—I'm really glad you’re here.Because first, I want you to know this: you’re not failing. You’re doing something incredibly hard. Parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system, whether your child has been impacted by trauma, or has sensory differences, or just has a brain wired a little differently, is extremely intensive parenting. I created this episode so you can:Easily return to it when you need a ‘mini pep talk’Listen in a short period of time- I know I’m usually a little long-windedBe reminded as often as you need: this isn’t your fault. You’re not failingResources mentioned in this podcast:All Behavior Makes Sense infographicEpisodes to listen to if you are in burnoutRead the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/peptalkI would love to have you join me this March in Durango, CO for a 3-day, retreat style workshop: Presence in Practice: An experiential workshop into the neurobiology of how change happens.All details and registration ------> https://RobynGobbel.com/DurangoRegister by December 19 for $75 off! :::Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/bookJoin us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClubSign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/ImmersionFollow Me On:FacebookInstagram Over on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)LOTS & LOTS of FREE ResourcesOngoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

If your kid refuses therapy, what other options are there?Or maybe they don’t refuse therapy, but you’d still like to increase the therapeutic support for your child and family.Here are 20 different non-therapy therapeutic supports based on Dr. Perry’s work of ‘moments of healing’ and experiences that are rhythmic, repetitive, relational, and somatosensoryOver on my website, you can download a handout that lists them all out (and was generated with the help of AI) so you don’t have to take notes!Resources mentioned in this podcast:Moments of Healing PodcastHow the Brainstem Heals {EP 49}Equine-Assisted Trauma-Informed Psychotherapy {EP 51}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/therapeuticinterventionsFollow Me On:FacebookInstagramOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)LOTS & LOTS of FREE ResourcesOngoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being WithI would love to have you join me this March in Durango, CO for a 3-day, retreat style workshop: Presence in Practice: An experiential workshop into the neurobiology of how change happens.All details and registration ------> https://RobynGobbel.com/DurangoRegister by December 19 for $75 off! Get access to over 25+ free resources in our brand, new Free Resource Hub! RobynGobbel.com/FreeResourceHub :::Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/bookJoin us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClubSign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/ImmersionFollow Me On:FacebookInstagram Over on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)LOTS & LOTS of FREE ResourcesOngoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Discover essential questions to ask potential therapists, focusing on understanding behaviors through the nervous system. Learn about crucial red flags and what qualifications signal a therapist's trauma-informed approach. Get tips for fostering a relational atmosphere that emphasizes connection and safety during therapy. Explore how to integrate therapeutic moments into everyday life, making the process more engaging for reluctant children. Access valuable resources and downloadable handouts to aid in finding the right fit for your family's needs.

Exploring the balance between co-regulation and masking, the discussion reveals how parents of children with vulnerable nervous systems can experience both good and bad exhaustion. Self-compassion emerges as crucial in this parenting journey. Listeners learn that co-regulating their child also requires their own need for connection. Resources for parents aiming to navigate these challenges are highlighted, along with an invitation to join a supportive community for ongoing engagement and professional development.

Explore the mysterious world of 'on purpose' behaviors in children, discovering that they stem from deeper emotional experiences rather than simple defiance. The discussion emphasizes the importance of empathy, regulation, and connection when addressing these challenging behaviors. Gain insights on how to respond effectively, ensuring that safety and understanding guide your approach. Plus, learn about valuable resources to assist in navigating these baffling behaviors in parenting!

Discover the vital components of self-regulation: monitoring and modifying emotional responses. The discussion highlights how these skills can be cultivated in children, with a focus on the importance of co-regulation. Listeners learn to set realistic expectations for their kids' abilities to notice and adjust their arousal levels. The conversation also touches on exciting changes to community support and resources for trauma-informed caregiving, creating a nurturing environment for families dealing with challenging behaviors.

In this conversation, Rose LaPiere, a co-teacher of Being With and parent, shares her insights on the complexities of medical trauma in children. She explains how trauma is subjective, affecting children differently during medical interventions like NICU stays or dental visits. Rose highlights the importance of parents understanding their child's reactions and emotions. She offers strategies for preparing kids for medical experiences, emphasizes storytelling and play as healing tools, and underlines the significance of co-regulation to support emotional connections.

Resentment is a common emotion for parents, especially when expectations clash with reality. The discussion explores how this feeling serves an important purpose and what messages it might convey. It addresses the unique struggles of parents raising children with special needs, emphasizing the importance of self-care and understanding boundaries. The conversation encourages curiosity over shame, highlighting how early attachment trauma can influence these emotions. Tune in for insights on emotional healing and fostering healthier parenting experiences.

Navigating parenting can feel overwhelming, especially when it seems like you're rewarding bad behavior. The discussion challenges common beliefs by exploring how connection and co-regulation can actually help children develop healthier coping mechanisms. It also emphasizes the importance of feeling safe to avoid future dysregulation. Plus, the podcast highlights valuable resources and community support for parents and professionals, paving the way for transformative strategies in managing tricky behaviors.