The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Ep. 217: Co-Regulating? Or Masking?

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Apr 15, 2025
Exploring the balance between co-regulation and masking, the discussion reveals how parents of children with vulnerable nervous systems can experience both good and bad exhaustion. Self-compassion emerges as crucial in this parenting journey. Listeners learn that co-regulating their child also requires their own need for connection. Resources for parents aiming to navigate these challenges are highlighted, along with an invitation to join a supportive community for ongoing engagement and professional development.
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INSIGHT

Higher Co-Regulation Needs

  • Kids with vulnerable nervous systems need more active co-regulation than their peers.
  • This leads to frequent dysregulation episodes and demands high presence, support, and advocacy from caregivers.
ADVICE

Notice Masking Without Judgement

  • If you suspect you're masking more than co-regulating, do not try to change immediately.
  • Instead, notice this without judgment and offer yourself compassion.
INSIGHT

Good vs. Bad Exhaustion

  • Exhaustion from co-regulating can be "good" or "bad" depending on connection mode.
  • Connection mode exhaustion arises from hard work paired with safety and connection cues.
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