Exploring the balance between co-regulation and masking, the discussion reveals how parents of children with vulnerable nervous systems can experience both good and bad exhaustion. Self-compassion emerges as crucial in this parenting journey. Listeners learn that co-regulating their child also requires their own need for connection. Resources for parents aiming to navigate these challenges are highlighted, along with an invitation to join a supportive community for ongoing engagement and professional development.
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Higher Co-Regulation Needs
Kids with vulnerable nervous systems need more active co-regulation than their peers.
This leads to frequent dysregulation episodes and demands high presence, support, and advocacy from caregivers.
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Notice Masking Without Judgement
If you suspect you're masking more than co-regulating, do not try to change immediately.
Instead, notice this without judgment and offer yourself compassion.
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Good vs. Bad Exhaustion
Exhaustion from co-regulating can be "good" or "bad" depending on connection mode.
Connection mode exhaustion arises from hard work paired with safety and connection cues.
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Kids with vulnerable nervous systems need more co-regulation than other kids their age and yes it’s exhausting.
Did you know it’s possible to be GOOD exhausted and not just BAD exhausted?!?!
It’s you’re chronically exhausted, you’re probably not doing as much co-regulation as you are masking how dysregulated you are.
And hey- no judgment here! This is very explicitly a no-judgment episode. I don’t want you to feel bad or even try to do anything different.
In this episode, you’ll learn
The difference between co-regulating and masking
How doing something really hard (like co-regulating a child with a vulnerable nervous system day in and day out) means that YOU need more connection and co-regulation, too!
That you don’t need to try to do anything different right now, it’s too much work to do anything different. In this episode, I’ll just ask you to notice- without judgment
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