The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Discover the vital components of self-regulation: monitoring and modifying emotional responses. The discussion highlights how these skills can be cultivated in children, with a focus on the importance of co-regulation. Listeners learn to set realistic expectations for their kids' abilities to notice and adjust their arousal levels. The conversation also touches on exciting changes to community support and resources for trauma-informed caregiving, creating a nurturing environment for families dealing with challenging behaviors.

In this conversation, Rose LaPiere, a co-teacher of Being With and parent, shares her insights on the complexities of medical trauma in children. She explains how trauma is subjective, affecting children differently during medical interventions like NICU stays or dental visits. Rose highlights the importance of parents understanding their child's reactions and emotions. She offers strategies for preparing kids for medical experiences, emphasizes storytelling and play as healing tools, and underlines the significance of co-regulation to support emotional connections.

Resentment is a common emotion for parents, especially when expectations clash with reality. The discussion explores how this feeling serves an important purpose and what messages it might convey. It addresses the unique struggles of parents raising children with special needs, emphasizing the importance of self-care and understanding boundaries. The conversation encourages curiosity over shame, highlighting how early attachment trauma can influence these emotions. Tune in for insights on emotional healing and fostering healthier parenting experiences.

Navigating parenting can feel overwhelming, especially when it seems like you're rewarding bad behavior. The discussion challenges common beliefs by exploring how connection and co-regulation can actually help children develop healthier coping mechanisms. It also emphasizes the importance of feeling safe to avoid future dysregulation. Plus, the podcast highlights valuable resources and community support for parents and professionals, paving the way for transformative strategies in managing tricky behaviors.

Explore the nuances of intensive parenting and uncover the difference between 'hard' and 'too hard' for both parents and kids. Delve into the emotional toll on parents and learn strategies for offering support while establishing vital boundaries. Gain insights into fostering children's success in educational settings through co-regulation and understanding their needs. Discover the importance of self-compassion and connection in parenting, especially when navigating the challenges of parenting sensitive children.

The discussion emphasizes how the nervous system shapes children's behavior. Parents learn about 'felt safety' and its connection to trauma, highlighting the importance of environment and relationships. Key insights into neuroception reveal how kids assess their safety, influencing their actions. The conversation also stresses the need for compassion and connection in parenting, offering resources to help tackle behavioral challenges. It's a thoughtful journey into understanding the underlying mechanisms that impact children's development.

Many parents feel like their kids are intentionally sabotaging situations, but there's a deeper neuroscience at play. Understanding these baffling behaviors offers hope rather than frustration. The podcast delves into how sensitive children may not be manipulative but are instead seeking emotional support. It emphasizes the importance of co-regulation and emotional healing, encouraging parents to respond in ways that can positively influence their child's development.

Exploring the hard truths of personal change, the discussion emphasizes that relying on external forces for support often leads to frustration. Listeners are encouraged to embrace their own agency in the journey toward healing and self-acceptance. The conversation touches on the complexities of vulnerability and the emotional challenges faced in relationships, while also highlighting the significance of personal accountability. Gratitude for community support underscores the importance of fostering self-love and growth.

Rose LaPiere, LPC, RPT-S, and ACS, a play therapist and co-leader in the immersive training program 'Being With,' dives into the profound world of grief. She emphasizes the importance of authenticity and playfulness in processing difficult emotions, particularly for children. The discussion covers how grief manifests across generations and the need for open communication in families. Rose also highlights the critical role of self-compassion for both parents and therapists while navigating the complexities of loss and joy together.

You’ve lowered stress and demands. You’ve reframed your child’s behavior as a response from their autonomic nervous system. You’ve worked hard to help your child’s stress response system rest and begin to healNow what?In this episode, you’ll learnHow rest is only one part of the healing processThe importance of reintroducing stressThe difference between stress that prompts growth and stress that leads to injury and burn-outResources mentioned in this podcast:Stress Response System {EP 94}Scaffolding Felt Safety {EP 205}Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/RaiseTheBarTeaching kids about their owl, watchdog, and possum brain is one key piece of growing their owl brain and calming their watchdog and possum brain!Register for this once-a-year webinar on September 4, 2025 at RobynGobbel.com/TeachKidsTheBrainYou'll get access to the recording and OODLES of resources.Club Members- you do NOT have to register!!!*** Check Out All Robyn's Free Resources!You can download all sorts of free resources, including webinars, eBook, and infographics about topics such as lying, boundaries, and co-regulation!RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources :::Grab a copy of my book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/bookJoin us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClubApply for the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With) robyngobbel.com/ImmersionFollow Me On:FacebookInstagram Over on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)LOTS & LOTS of FREE ResourcesOngoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)