The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} Ep. 216: "On Purpose" Behavior
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Apr 8, 2025 Explore the mysterious world of 'on purpose' behaviors in children, discovering that they stem from deeper emotional experiences rather than simple defiance. The discussion emphasizes the importance of empathy, regulation, and connection when addressing these challenging behaviors. Gain insights on how to respond effectively, ensuring that safety and understanding guide your approach. Plus, learn about valuable resources to assist in navigating these baffling behaviors in parenting!
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On-Purpose Behaviors Are Protection
- Behaviors that seem "on purpose" often come from a low-level protection mode, not connection mode.
- The "owl brain" thinking is present but tied to protection, not safety or connection.
Owl Brain Needs Safety And Connection
- The "owl brain" metaphor represents thinking tied to safety and connection, not just thoughtful behavior.
- On-purpose behaviors may happen when a chronic low-level watchdog (protection mode) inhibits true connection.
Deliberate Behaviors Lack Connection
- On-purpose deliberate behaviors are not connection-based but still show thoughtful planning.
- These behaviors arise from protection mode with an active watchdog, not full regulation or felt safety.
