Navigating parenting can feel overwhelming, especially when it seems like you're rewarding bad behavior. The discussion challenges common beliefs by exploring how connection and co-regulation can actually help children develop healthier coping mechanisms. It also emphasizes the importance of feeling safe to avoid future dysregulation. Plus, the podcast highlights valuable resources and community support for parents and professionals, paving the way for transformative strategies in managing tricky behaviors.
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Nervous System Lens on Behavior
Shifting to a nervous system lens on behavior can feel like rewarding bad behavior.
Strategies promoting regulation, connection, and felt safety are positive and can feel like rewards.
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The Nervous System Seeks Regulation
The nervous system naturally seeks regulation and connection.
When regulated and feeling safe, kids display positive behaviors like cooperation and empathy.
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Avoiding Unintentional Reinforcement
Address how to avoid kids intentionally acting dysregulated for rewards.
Also, address how to prevent kids from developing the belief that acting up leads to good things.
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One of the harder things to navigate when shifting to a nervous system lens on behavior is the feeling that a lot of the strategies seem like they are rewarding bad behavior.
Strategies that invite regulation, connection, and felt safety are usually strategies that feel good.
If our kids feel good after bad behavior, will they have MORE bad behavior??
In this episode, you’ll learn
What it might be signaling if you’re wondering if you’re rewarding bad behavior
How to avoid unintentionally increasing the likelihood of dysregulation in the future
Why it’s reallllllly important to offer connection, co-regulation and felt safety strategies when you are in connection mode
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