It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
TruStory FM
Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
Episodes
Mentioned books
Apr 20, 2023 • 25min
HCPs in HR, Genuine vs. Feigned Empathy, and Child HCPs
The podcast discusses managing high conflict personalities in HR, the difference between genuine and feigned empathy, and the traits of high conflict children. It also touches on the challenges of mediating with high conflict individuals, the impact of high conflict people in organizations, and strategies for setting limits and redirecting child behavior.
Apr 13, 2023 • 20min
Blamers Who Call CPS, Minimizing Contact with HCPS, and Quiet HCPs
More Listener Questions!In this episode, Megan and Bill answer your questions on high-conflict topics that matter to you, including:How do you stop a high conflict person from calling state authorities on you? No prosecutor will charge my ex with filing a false police report. I'm already suing in civil court for damages, but this outcome will take years to conclude and she's still making threats to call the police.Is minimizing contact with an HCP ever acceptable? Are there any circumstances where it might actually be what you would recommend? What is your take on long term abuse of power, and whether or not it’s ever ok to draw a line and say, “I’m just going to go minimal contact so I can maximize the energy I can spend with our kids”?Can you discuss how high conflict people may present and not normally yell and scream or argue?Links & Other NotesBOOKSDon’t Alienate the KidsHigh Conflict People in Legal DisputesARTICLEQuick Tips for Controlling Communications with a Hostile ExCOURSENew Ways for Families: Parenting Without Conflict (for court-ordered mandatory parent education requirement)New Ways for Families + coachingOur website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.
(00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
(01:22) - Minimizing Conflict with HCPs
(08:38) - More Than Just Yelling and Arguing
(12:47) - When They Blame You
(17:59) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: More Listener Questions
Apr 6, 2023 • 18min
High Conflict People in Mediation, Emotional Triggers in BIFF Responses, and Hereditary Antisocial Personality Disorder
Learn about the challenges mediators face with high conflict personalities in mediation. Explore the 'new ways for mediation' method and tips for managing high conflict people. Discover how emotions can impact interactions and the importance of empathy. Understand the genetic nature of antisocial personality disorder and setting limits. Learn how to spot sociopathic behavior and engage with the podcast through questions and reviews.
Mar 30, 2023 • 25min
Narcissistic Co-Parents, Borderline Spouses, and Intimidating Behaviors
The hosts discuss mediating high conflict cases and offer training programs. They talk about dealing with a high conflict custody case and concerns for the child. They cover co-parenting with challenging behaviors and teaching life skills. The concept of co-parenting and addressing a high conflict family member is discussed. They also talk about managing high conflict people and finding a counselor for oneself.
Mar 23, 2023 • 38min
The Alex Murdaugh Con and How to Avoid Being Conned
This podcast explores the Alex Murdaugh con and how to avoid being conned. They discuss Alex's conning M.O., con artists and fake emergencies, and how to spot and avoid being conned. They also talk about the vulnerability of small rural communities to con artists and share personal experiences of being conned.
Mar 16, 2023 • 41min
Alex Murdaugh’s Personality: Is He a Sociopath, Psychopath, Antisocial?
Alex Murdaugh, central figure in a high-profile murder case, is discussed in relation to high conflict and mental health disorders. Topics include remorse, empathy, trust, aggression, personality clues, opioid addiction, and patterns of lying and gaining sympathy.
Mar 9, 2023 • 32min
Why Connection Is So Important in High Conflict Interactions
Learn why connection is key in managing high conflict personalities, the impact of brain functions on interactions, the importance of cultural differences in relationships, and strategies for effective communication in intense situations.
Mar 2, 2023 • 44min
High Conflict Workplace Investigations with Guest Host Cherolyn Knapp and Guest Bob Stenhouse
Guest co-host Cherolyn Knapp and guest Bob Stenhouse, founder of Verita, discuss high conflict workplace investigations, challenges posed by people with high conflict personalities, building rapport with interviewees, use of BIFF in investigations, DARVO concept, and recommendations for employers to address bullying and harassment.
Feb 23, 2023 • 41min
Divorce Radio and Celebrity Divorce with Guest Ilyssa Panitz
Journalist and radio host Ilyssa Panitz, THE Divorce Journalist, discusses her divorce radio show, high conflict divorce during the pandemic, similarities between celebrity and regular divorces, listener feedback, and lessons learned. The podcast explores navigating challenges in divorce, the impact on celebrities, and turning hardships into positive messages.
Feb 16, 2023 • 49min
10 Paradigm Shifts of High Conflict Mediation with Guest Michael Lomax
Guest Michael Lomax, an expert in high conflict mediation, discusses 10 paradigm shifts essential for mediating high conflict disputes, focusing on problem-solving and client participation. They highlight the importance of avoiding apologies, guiding parties towards future-oriented solutions, and patience in reaching agreements.
