The legal case between Amber Heard and Johnny Depp has been heard around the world. It’s a case rife with allegations of domestic violence on both sides, which will be challenging for the jury to make a decision.In this episode Bill and Megan discuss the case and why it is important to focus on the big picture rather than being persuaded by a single picture or an isolated story. They will discuss:What kind of case is it – family law or defamation?Who will decide – a judge or a jury?The four different types of domestic violenceWhether the jurors can keep an open mind or notCan jurors avoid confirmation bias, assuming it’s always true, always false or always both?Why do juries and judges need 3 theories of any case of allegations of abuse?Links & Other NotesWEBSITESHigh Conflict InstituteConflict PlaybookCOURSEConversations About Domestic Violence in Family Law with 16 Experts: A 6-Part video series on Domestic Violence (DV) / Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) best practices in the family law environment in the United States and CanadaBOOKSDating Radar: Why Your Brain Says Yes to “The One” Who Will Make Your Life HellARTICLESDating DenialAre Your Personality Awareness Skills Up to Date?Does Your Relationship Include Coercive Control?Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:23) - Johnny Depp and Amber Heard (03:47) - Types of Domestic Violence (08:11) - Trying to See the Big Picture (15:02) - Confirmation Bias (17:45) - Three Theories (21:02) - True or False (27:08) - Dating Radar (31:10) - Reminders (32:14) - Coming Next Week: DV Guest Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!

Workplace conflict is on the increase. According to a 2021 survey, 89% of employees from a diverse range of industries reported experiencing conflict at work, consuming 3.5 hours/week on average. Finding employees is challenging, making a calm workplace imperative if competitive advantage is to be gained. When incivility and bullies or other high conflict people are in the workplace, the impact goes deep.In this episode Bill and Megan talk with guest Catherine Mattice, founder of Civility Partners, and author of Back Off! Your Kick-Ass Guide to End Bullying at Work. They will discuss:whether bullying is increasingthe definition of bullyingcauses of bullyingcan it be eliminated?impact on others of bullyingdoes coaching work?should a bully be terminated?should we have workplace bullying laws?creating a psychologically safe work environmentCatherine has a wealth of experience specifically in bullying, including the latest research.Links & Other NotesWEBSITESCivility PartnersHigh Conflict InstituteBOOKSBACK OFF! Your Kick-Ass Guide to Ending Bullying at WorkIt’s All Your Fault at Work! Managing Narcissists and Other High Conflict PeopleARTICLESCivility and the Surge ProtectorWhy Don’t They Get It?Times are EdgySubmit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:23) - Catherine Mattice (03:50) - Catherine's Backstory (08:28) - Defining Workplace Bullying (11:17) - Causes of Workplace Bullying (13:47) - Eliminating It (16:04) - Those Who Are Impacted (16:59) - Is a Bully by Default an HCP? (19:44) - Reading the Population (22:12) - Evaluations (22:52) - Group Responses (24:31) - If You Need to Get Rid of Them (28:30) - How They Get There (30:01) - BIFF Certification (31:01) - What's Gratifying (32:51) - Workplace Bullying Laws (35:49) - Psychologically Safe Work Environment (41:59) - Finding Catherine (43:42) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Johnny Depp & Amber Heard Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!

It’s time for the Q&A Lab again! In this episode, Bill and Megan answer listener questions on several topics, including:dealing with high conflict family members who accuse you of not living up to their expectations. Should hurtful comments be ignored? Should EAR Statements be used?similarities and differences of ADHD and personality disorderscan ADHD co-exist with a high conflict personality in the same individualfrom a previous podcast on Russia’s Putin in which we suggested that he may suffer from malignant narcissism, and whether the term “psychopath” would be more accuratedeciding when to use EAR Statements and BIFF Responses to create connection with a person with a high conflict personality, and when to just take distance or avoid themre-kindling an old friendship with someone with Borderline Personality HCP attributesListen as we break it down and answer these questions that truly have a significant impact on lives.Links & Other NotesBOOKSIt’s All Your Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for EverythingARTICLESThe CARS Method® for Resolving High Conflict SituationsDon’t Let HCPs Ruin Your LifeYou Can Strengthen Any Relationship With Empathy, Attention, and RespectWEBSITEOur website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:57) - Q&A Lab (03:09) - Question 1 (10:29) - Question 2 (17:08) - Question 3 (22:47) - Question 4 (26:09) - Question 5 (32:55) - Links, Etc. (33:53) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Catherine Mattice Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!

Family members (and friends) of someone who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder (or BPD) are typically mystified about how to interact with them, walk on eggshells around them, and generally feel overwhelmed and defeated because they don’t know what to do.In this episode, Bill and Megan continue their discussion with BPD expert Amanda Smith, LCSW, founder of HopeforBPD.com. Amanda is a highly skilled BPD and Dialectical Behavior Therapy expert, having helped countless clients through their recovery. She’s helped family members learn the necessary skills for helping their loved one best while also taking care of themselves. Amanda also provides treatment consultation. She is the author of two books:The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Wellness PlannerThe Borderline Personality Disorder Wellness Planner for FamiliesIn this episode – part 2 of 2 – Amanda gives hope and help to family members and friends of those with BPD. She discusses what to do and what to avoid. She will explain whether BPD is a hopeless situation with no resolution or whether something can be done to intervene – including whether an “intervention” can work.Links & Other NotesHopeforBPDThe Dialectical Behavior Therapy Wellness PlannerThe Borderline Personality Disorder Wellness PlannerOur website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:40) - The Family of Someone With BPD (03:44) - Avoiding Blame (06:35) - Helping When They Don't See the Problem (08:29) - When in a Marriage (10:23) - Couples Counseling (12:26) - Intervention? (14:50) - Calling It Out (16:18) - How to Approach It (18:03) - In High Conflict Divorces (21:42) - E A R Statements (23:19) - Medication (25:00) - Amanda's Book (27:50) - Wrapping Up (30:04) - Reminders Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!

People throw around the term Borderline Personality Disorder (or BPD), but most likely don’t even know what it is, and many have no idea how to handle it, whether within themselves or with a family member. Relationships and interactions are somewhat of a mystery to those around them, and even to themselves. People with BPD often feel like the black sheep of the family, but once you have an understanding of what may be happening and use a set of skills that are typically quite opposite.In this episode, Bill and Megan talk with BPD expert Amanda Smith, LCSW, founder of HopeforBPD.com. Amanda is a highly skilled BPD and Dialectical Behavior Therapy expert, having helped countless clients through their recovery. She’s helped family members learn the necessary skills for helping their loved one best while also taking care of themselves. Amanda also provides treatment consultation. She is the author of two books:The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Wellness PlannerThe Borderline Personality Disorder Wellness Planner for FamiliesIn this episode – part 1 of 2 – Amanda discusses the basics of BPD and how to get help. In next week’s episode – part 2 – she will focus on what families can do to help.Links & Other NotesHopeforBPDThe Dialectical Behavior Therapy Wellness PlannerThe Borderline Personality Disorder Wellness PlannerOur website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:35) - Amanda Smith (04:20) - Successes (05:13) - Trauma (07:20) - BPD vs. PTSD (09:18) - Emotion Disregulation (13:22) - Treatment (16:22) - In Parenting Cases (23:05) - On the Rise and More Acceptance? (25:12) - Resistant? (27:12) - Online Course (28:13) - Therapist Parameters (31:13) - Complicating Factors (33:52) - Amanda & Her Books (36:38) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Part 2 Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!

The slap heard around the world. Obviously this was a high conflict situation, but was it a one-off incident resulting from a highly stressed person, aka Will Smith? Or two highly stressed people, Smith and comedian Chris Rock? Or did either of them show signs of a potential high conflict personality?In this episode, Bill and Megan break it down.What could have been happening just before Will walked on stage?What impact did Chris Rock’s responses have on Will and on the situation?Were both of them exhibiting high conflict behaviors? Is there a history on either side showing a high conflict pattern?Did Chris use what ultimately was an EAR Statement?Were the consequences effectuated by the Academy effective?If not, what should happen to effect actual change in high conflict behavior?This is a behind-the scenes exploration into what could have been happening with Will Smith in this situation. We don’t diagnose. We don’t blame and shame. We just explore and focus on what to do next.Links & Other NotesBOOKSCalming Upset People with EARARTICLESCan High Conflict People Change?Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:24) - The Slap Heard Around the World (08:28) - Background (09:53) - Recognize and Adapt (13:07) - Chris Rock (15:01) - Breaking Down the Responses (20:16) - What Happened Next (24:13) - Consequences (30:57) - Wrapping Up (31:42) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Guest Amanda Smith Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!

Continuing from the previous episode, Bill and Megan take a listener question about a high conflict situation in the workplace. Specifically, what do you do when actual high conflict people in management turn the “Bill Eddy” skills around and use them with others who are not high conflict.Megan and Bill explain how their new Conflict Influencer™ Certification program can help in situations like this.Links & Other NotesCONFLICT INFLUENCER™ CERTIFICATION COURSEBOOKSIt’s All Your Fault at Work: Managing Narcissists and Other High Conflict PeopleARTICLESGetting to the Root of Conflict in Employment CasesAre High Conflict People Ruining Your Business?Our website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:22) - High Conflict Certification Course Recap (03:29) - Listener Question: HCPs in Healthcare (22:48) - The Course (30:31) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: More BIFF Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!

This podcast discusses high conflict situations in the workplace and introduces the Conflict Influencer certification course. They explore the rise of workplace conflicts during and after the pandemic and the impact of individuals with high conflict personalities. The High Conflict Certification program offers tailored solutions for managing high conflict situations, including online videos and live labs. Organizational level training is emphasized for addressing complex behavior and creating a happier work environment.

A diagnosis of bi-polar disorder can be both devastating and liberating. Although such a diagnosis is unsettling because of the lifetime implications, it can also be a relief to have an answer and hope for a calmer future.In this episode, Bill and Megan are joined by Dr. Jay Lieberman, a retired surgeon in the podiatry field who was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder later in life than most — at age 60. As one might expect, his professional and personal life took some major hits after some harrowing events that wouldn’t have happened if he hadn’t been suffering with an undiagnosed mental illness.Dr. Jay shares his journey – in a very transparent way – through the impacts of his behavior on his marriage, his career, and other relationships. It’s a journey marked with significant loss, but also with a great deal of new life, new purpose, forgiveness, and hope. Listen in as Bill and Megan talk with Dr. Jay about:the similarities and differences between bi-polar behaviors and high conflict behaviorsdomestic violence and incarcerationmedicationswhat and who were most helpfuladvice for members, friends, and colleagues regarding someone who may be exhibiting “high conflict” behaviors, whether from a bi-polar diagnosis or with a high conflict personalityhelping othersLinks & Other NotesGenieBee PublishingNational Suicide Prevention LifelineNational Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)BOOKSCalming Upset People with EARARTICLESEAR Statement Can Calm Anyone7 Tips for Dealing with Difficult People During This CrisisOur website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:51) - Meet Dr. Jay Lieberman (25:00) - What Worked (28:30) - High Conflict with Bipolar (33:45) - Extreme Behaviors (36:26) - Domestic Violence (37:04) - When It's Family (38:51) - Don't Tell Them Directly (39:52) - Respect and Suspect (43:56) - Dr. Lieberman's Book & Wrap Up (45:30) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: High Conflict in the Workplace Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!

Putin hasn’t stopped, as we predicted, and it doesn’t look like he’s going to stop. Is that because he’s backed into a corner? Because he’s trying to save face? Or because his malignant narcissism (yes, that means his narcissism grows over time) won’t allow him to stop?Bill and Megan continue their discussion about what has become one of the worst disasters not only in modern times but in all recorded history, driven by a man who is willing to do what 99.9999% of the rest of the world would never do. In our work we teach that high conflict people do things that 90% of other people would never do. In this case, it’s even more extreme. Although there are other malignant narcissists as political leaders across the globe, he’s the only one engaging in actions that 99.9999% of other people would never do.Listen as Bill and Megan discuss:what makes a malignant narcissist and whether Putin fits the description (although we’re not diagnosing him)what stops a malignant narcissistwhether Ukraine’s President Zelensky handling Putin’s narcissism in the correct mannerwhether NATO and other nations are handling Putin’s narcissism in the correct mannerBill’s book Why We Elect Narcissists and Sociopaths and How We Can Stop written in 2019 (he’s not different now in 2022, he’s just worse)the fantasy triad and whether/how it applies in this escalationhow much of this bad news is harmful for us to watchLinks & Other NotesBOOKSWhy We Elect Narcissists and Sociopaths ― and How We Can Stop5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your LifeARTICLESPutin Attacking Ukraine: Is this Malignant Narcissism? If so, Can We Predict His Future Actions?How High-Conflict Politicians Turn Peace into WarOur website: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/Submit a Question for Bill and MeganAll of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.You can also find these show notes at our site as well.Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (02:37) - Week Three (04:17) - What Is a Malignant Narcissist? (09:28) - Will He Stop? (11:16) - Suicide? (13:18) - Manipulations (16:11) - Zelensky's Leadership (17:37) - How Everyone's Handling Him (20:11) - Bill's Research for His Book (24:20) - How This Affects Us (29:58) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Dr. Jay Lieberman Learn more about our New Ways for Mediation Coaching Sessions. Get started today!