It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
What are the 4 Fuhgedaboudits When Interacting with Someone with a High Conflict Personality?
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Quick takeaways
- To effectively interact with high conflict individuals, professionals should avoid trying to provide insight into their behavior and focus on managing the relationship and finding practical solutions.
- Professionals dealing with high conflict individuals can train their amygdala by repeatedly exposing themselves to high conflict situations and remaining calm, which can desensitize the amygdala and reduce emotional reactions.
Deep dives
The Four 'Forget About It' in High Conflict Situations
In this podcast episode, the hosts discuss the four key things to avoid in high conflict situations. The first point is to forget about trying to give the person insight into themselves and their behavior. High conflict individuals often lack self-awareness, making it futile to attempt to make them understand the impact of their actions. The second point is to forget about focusing on the past. High conflict people are prone to rewriting history and blaming others, so it is crucial to center discussions on the present and future. The third point advises against opening up emotions. Emotional confrontations and discussions about feelings can escalate conflicts with high conflict individuals, as they tend to lack emotional regulation. The fourth and final point is to forget about using labels. Labeling individuals as high conflict or having personality disorders can trigger defensiveness and hinder progress. Instead, the focus should be on managing the relationship and finding practical solutions. By keeping these four principles in mind, professionals can navigate high conflict situations more effectively.
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