It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
TruStory FM
Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
Episodes
Mentioned books
Aug 14, 2025 • 36min
The High-Conflict Borderline Personality: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 3) • REBROADCAST
Dive into the murky waters of high-conflict borderline personalities, where affection can flip to rage in a heartbeat. Explore the emotional volatility of these individuals and the concept of splitting that impacts relationships deeply. Discover the tangled web of deception driven by fears of abandonment. Learn the importance of secure attachment and the role of empathy in navigating these dynamics. Gain practical strategies to maintain boundaries while fostering healthier interactions, all while keeping hope alive for recovery.
Jul 31, 2025 • 25min
Narcissistic Co-Parents, Borderline Spouses, and Intimidating Behaviors • REBROADCAST
This session dives into the complexities of co-parenting with narcissistic individuals, offering strategies to protect children amid conflict. The hosts tackle intimidating behaviors that arise in high-stakes decisions, highlighting practical ways to reclaim agency. They also discuss living with someone exhibiting borderline personality traits, underlining the need for therapeutic support and understanding personal boundaries. Valuable resources and expert advice shine throughout, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating these challenging dynamics.
Jul 17, 2025 • 43min
High Conflict Patterns: Understanding Situational vs Long-Term Behavior • And We Introduce Conflict Influencer!
Explore the intriguing distinction between situational high conflict behaviors and long-term patterns that disrupt relationships. Discover how stress can trigger temporary conflicts while recognizing signs of persistent issues like blaming others and all-or-nothing thinking. Learn effective strategies to manage high conflict individuals, emphasizing solutions over past grievances. Plus, get introduced to Conflict Influencer, a new platform aimed at supporting those navigating treacherous interpersonal waters.
Jul 10, 2025 • 52min
Child Abuse Allegations: Finding Truth and Safety in Family Court with Dr. Wendy Bourg
In this engaging discussion, clinical psychologist Dr. Wendy Bourg, who specializes in high-conflict family situations, delves into the complexities of child abuse allegations in family courts. She shares insights on maintaining child safety while preserving crucial parental attachments. The conversation also addresses how legal professionals can navigate emotional challenges and avoid common pitfalls when investigating claims. Dr. Bourg highlights innovative approaches and research findings that compel a reevaluation of traditional beliefs about these sensitive issues.
Jul 3, 2025 • 34min
Trauma vs. Entitlement: Finding Balance in High Conflict Situations
The discussion highlights the intricate interplay between trauma and entitlement in high-conflict scenarios. Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter emphasize the necessity of balancing empathy with accountability. They explore how trauma history doesn't excuse harmful behavior and underline the importance of clear boundaries. A case study on family interventions illustrates the challenges of compassionate limit-setting. Finally, new platforms like ConflictInfluencer.com are introduced to help individuals develop essential conflict resolution skills.
Jun 26, 2025 • 34min
Female Teacher Sexual Misconduct: Understanding Power Dynamics and Emotional Drivers
Delve into the complex issue of female teachers engaging in sexual misconduct with male students. The discussion highlights emotional motivations and the blurred lines of professional boundaries. Insights on grooming behaviors reveal how trust is manipulated over time. The psychological dynamics and the societal factors influencing these cases are unpacked, emphasizing the long-term mental health effects on victims. Additionally, the importance of education on personal boundaries and open communication is stressed as crucial for prevention.
Jun 19, 2025 • 33min
High Conflict Surprises: How to Recover When You Never Saw It Coming
Discover the unsettling impact of unexpectedly encountering high conflict individuals and how it can shake your self-confidence. Learn to recognize patterns of behavior that lead to confusion and isolation, turning attempts at communication into challenges. Delve into personal stories about navigating narcissism in the workplace and the emotional toll it takes. Explore practical strategies for managing conflicts with composure, setting clear boundaries, and seeking supportive relationships to regain your power.
Jun 12, 2025 • 45min
“Why Don’t You Just Leave?”: Understanding Abuse & Finding Your Way Out
Explore the complex reasons why individuals remain in abusive relationships, even when they have support. Discover the insidious tactics of coercive control, highlighted by a real-life case of a high-profile couple. Understand the impact of personality traits on abusive behavior, while recognizing that not everyone with such traits is abusive. Gain practical advice on identifying abuse, emphasizing the importance of self-talk and building supportive networks for those seeking to break free.
Jun 5, 2025 • 35min
Histrionics Unveiled: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 6) • REBROADCAST
Discover the intriguing world of histrionic high conflict personalities, marked by exaggerated emotions and a relentless need for attention. The discussion unveils how these traits can disrupt relationships and workplaces, with surprising insights on their presence in both genders. Explore the funhouse mirror of social media's role in amplifying these behaviors and learn vital strategies for setting boundaries. They even analyze a famous marriage to shed light on the impact of histrionic traits in real-life scenarios, offering practical advice for those navigating these personalities.
May 29, 2025 • 47min
Unmasking the Narcissist: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 5) • REBROADCAST
This engaging discussion delves into the world of narcissistic high conflict personalities. The hosts reveal the key traits of narcissists, including their need for superiority and lack of empathy. They differentiate between grandiose and vulnerable narcissists, emphasizing how these types manifest in relationships. The conversation also addresses the alarming link between narcissism and domestic violence, and the broader societal impact of narcissistic traits influenced by social media. Strategies for navigating relationships with these individuals are also explored.
