It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People Setting Limits That Stick: The SLIC Method for Effective Boundaries
Nov 13, 2025
Explore the innovative SLIC method for effective parenting, where clear limits meet appropriate consequences. Bill and Megan discuss how empathy statements can assist in enforcing boundaries, while also addressing toddler misbehavior with alternatives and short timeouts. They emphasize the importance of aligning with teachers and sustaining support systems to strengthen behavioral expectations. Gain insights on managing teens in high-stakes situations, and learn why early limit-setting is crucial for long-term success.
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Attach Consequences And Use Empathy
- When you set a limit, state the consequence you will impose if it's violated and be prepared to follow through.
- Add an empathy/attention/respect statement about half the time to keep the relationship secure while demanding change.
Grandfather's Look Solved Misbehavior
- Megan recalled a funeral where grandchildren changed behavior merely with a look from their grandfather.
- The story highlights how respect and role models can motivate kids without harsh consequences.
Redirect Before You Punish
- Toddlers need redirection because their motor control and impulse regulation are still developing.
- Teaching what to do (not just what not to do) and brief, age-appropriate consequences work best.
