It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

High Conflict Listener Questions: When Different Personalities Collide in Families

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Sep 18, 2025
This episode dives deep into high conflict dynamics in families. The hosts discuss common personality pairings, such as borderline with narcissistic traits and how these combinations often satisfy emotional needs. They emphasize strategies for protecting children from parental alienation, focusing on teaching essential life skills before age nine. Plus, they tackle a listener's situation involving estrangement and suggest actionable steps to mend family relationships, reinforcing the importance of positive communication.
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Two High-Conflict People Often Pair Up

  • About half of high-conflict relationships involve both people having problematic personality traits or disorders.
  • Bill Eddy notes combinations vary widely but both partners often reinforce emotional, high-conflict cycles.
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Borderline And Narcissist Pairings

  • Borderline-plus-narcissist pairings are commonly seen and can occur in either gender configuration.
  • These pairings create cycles of tension, explosion, remorse, and reinforcement that keep the relationship stuck.
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Dominant Antisocial With Histrionic

  • Antisocial partners often dominate histrionic partners because histrionics are easily controlled.
  • Megan Hunter explains these matches form because each person fulfills the other's emotional needs.
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