It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People
TruStory FM
Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life!
Have you ever wanted to know what drives them to act this way?
In the It’s All Your Fault podcast, we’ll take you behind the scenes to understand what’s happening in the brain and illuminates why we pick HCPs as life partners, why we hire them, and how we can handle interactions and relationships with them. We break down everything you ever wanted to know about people with the 5 high conflict personality types: narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, antisocial/sociopath, and paranoid.
And we’ll give you tips on how to spot them and how to deal with them.
Episodes
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Jun 26, 2025 • 34min
Female Teacher Sexual Misconduct: Understanding Power Dynamics and Emotional Drivers
Delve into the complex issue of female teachers engaging in sexual misconduct with male students. The discussion highlights emotional motivations and the blurred lines of professional boundaries. Insights on grooming behaviors reveal how trust is manipulated over time. The psychological dynamics and the societal factors influencing these cases are unpacked, emphasizing the long-term mental health effects on victims. Additionally, the importance of education on personal boundaries and open communication is stressed as crucial for prevention.
Jun 19, 2025 • 33min
High Conflict Surprises: How to Recover When You Never Saw It Coming
Discover the unsettling impact of unexpectedly encountering high conflict individuals and how it can shake your self-confidence. Learn to recognize patterns of behavior that lead to confusion and isolation, turning attempts at communication into challenges. Delve into personal stories about navigating narcissism in the workplace and the emotional toll it takes. Explore practical strategies for managing conflicts with composure, setting clear boundaries, and seeking supportive relationships to regain your power.
Jun 12, 2025 • 45min
“Why Don’t You Just Leave?”: Understanding Abuse & Finding Your Way Out
Explore the complex reasons why individuals remain in abusive relationships, even when they have support. Discover the insidious tactics of coercive control, highlighted by a real-life case of a high-profile couple. Understand the impact of personality traits on abusive behavior, while recognizing that not everyone with such traits is abusive. Gain practical advice on identifying abuse, emphasizing the importance of self-talk and building supportive networks for those seeking to break free.
Jun 5, 2025 • 35min
Histrionics Unveiled: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 6) • REBROADCAST
Discover the intriguing world of histrionic high conflict personalities, marked by exaggerated emotions and a relentless need for attention. The discussion unveils how these traits can disrupt relationships and workplaces, with surprising insights on their presence in both genders. Explore the funhouse mirror of social media's role in amplifying these behaviors and learn vital strategies for setting boundaries. They even analyze a famous marriage to shed light on the impact of histrionic traits in real-life scenarios, offering practical advice for those navigating these personalities.
May 29, 2025 • 47min
Unmasking the Narcissist: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 5) • REBROADCAST
This engaging discussion delves into the world of narcissistic high conflict personalities. The hosts reveal the key traits of narcissists, including their need for superiority and lack of empathy. They differentiate between grandiose and vulnerable narcissists, emphasizing how these types manifest in relationships. The conversation also addresses the alarming link between narcissism and domestic violence, and the broader societal impact of narcissistic traits influenced by social media. Strategies for navigating relationships with these individuals are also explored.
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May 22, 2025 • 30min
Recognizing High Conflict Patterns: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life (Part 1) • REBROADCAST
Discover the five types of high conflict personalities that can disrupt your life. The hosts break down their traits, such as blame-shifting and extreme thinking. Practical strategies for navigating these relationships are shared, including the CARS method for handling conflict. Learn the significance of recognizing these patterns and the need for better understanding mental health. Get a sneak peek into discussions on narcissistic personalities in future installments!
May 15, 2025 • 37min
Royal Family Fallout: How Public Scrutiny Damages Family Reconciliation
Delve into the intriguing dynamics of the British Royal Family as the hosts analyze the impact of public scrutiny on their internal conflicts. They discuss the escalating drama surrounding Harry and Meghan, highlighting the importance of keeping family matters private for reconciliation. The tension between traditional hierarchies and modern expectations is explored, alongside effective conflict resolution strategies. Tune in for insights on managing high-conflict relationships and improving family dynamics amidst media pressure.
May 8, 2025 • 44min
Borderline Personality Disorder: Courts, Recovery & Reform with Shehrina Rooney
Shehrina Rooney, a passionate BPD recovery advocate and author, shares her powerful journey through Borderline Personality Disorder. The conversation delves into how BPD affects relationships and legal matters, especially in family courts. Shehrina exposes the stigma surrounding BPD and the misconceptions that can influence outcomes in legal settings. The discussion underscores the significance of emotional regulation and the need for a compassionate understanding of those affected. Listeners gain insights into reshaping perceptions and promoting positive recovery.
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May 1, 2025 • 39min
Hidden in Plain Sight: Decoding the Doomsday Mom's High-Conflict Personality
Explore the chilling case of Lori Vallow Daybell and the disturbing psychological traits that may explain her actions. Delve into the complexities of antisocial personality disorder and its genetic roots. Learn about the haunting effects of high-conflict personalities on families, highlighting Colby’s experience as a case study. Understand the themes of manipulation and mental health, discussing how early intervention can change tragic outcomes. Gain insights into the impact of these dynamics on societal narratives and family healing.
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Apr 24, 2025 • 23min
Listener Q&A: Breaking Through High Conflict Patterns & Building Better Relationships
Listeners dive into the world of high-conflict relationships, exploring the significance of self-awareness in managing difficult interactions. Bill and Megan share practical tools like the BIFF method for clearer communication. They discuss the complexities of co-parenting and the need for realistic expectations when handling challenging personalities. The conversation also touches on how manipulative environments can alter behavior and emphasizes the crucial role of setting boundaries while navigating these dynamics.
