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It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

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Apr 3, 2025 • 56min

Negotiation's Missing Peace: Finding Humanity in High Conflict with Michèle Huff

Join Michèle Huff, a transactional lawyer and Executive Director at UC Berkeley, as she unveils her transformative negotiation techniques based on empathy and human connection. She draws from Buddhist principles to emphasize internal transformation when dealing with high conflict personalities. Topics include the crucial role of soft skills, the dangers of dehumanization, and practical strategies like mindful breathing for maintaining composure. Huff's insights aim to redefine negotiations in high-stakes environments, blending compassion with effective problem-solving.
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Mar 27, 2025 • 47min

Be Assertive, Not Aggressive: Winning in Family Court with Judge Bruce Cohen (ret.)

In this engaging conversation, retired Judge Bruce Cohen shares his extensive knowledge of family law and unpacks the crucial difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness in court. He emphasizes how assertive communication can lead to better outcomes in custody disputes, while aggression often escalates conflict. The discussion also touches on managing high-conflict personalities without resorting to diagnosing, focusing on behavior instead. Judge Cohen provides practical tips for legal writing and presenting cases effectively, ensuring clarity and impact in family court.
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Mar 20, 2025 • 40min

Zero to Sixty: Understanding Why Some People Can't Control Their Anger

Explore the fascinating link between anger and high-conflict personalities with insights from Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter. Discover the surprising findings from Ohio State University that challenge traditional anger management techniques. Learn how distinct personality traits influence the way individuals express anger, and the critical role of emotional regulation in interpersonal conflicts. The duo highlights the power of human connection, revealing practical strategies for managing anger and fostering positive communication.
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Mar 13, 2025 • 34min

Big Emotions Explained: Understanding Emotion Dysregulation and BPD

Explore the intricacies of emotion dysregulation, particularly its ties to borderline personality disorder. Delve into how childhood experiences and brain structure impact emotional responses. Learn to differentiate between typical teenage angst and concerning behaviors, all while gaining insights from nature’s calming effects on mental health. Discover therapeutic interventions that can foster emotional regulation, equipping parents with strategies to support their children in navigating the complexities of their feelings and today’s social media influences.
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Mar 6, 2025 • 32min

Calm Before Think: Mastering Emotional Management in Professional Settings

Cherolyn Knapp, a workplace conflict expert from the High Conflict Institute and experienced lawyer and mediator, shares her insights on emotional management in professional settings. She discusses the phenomenon of emotional contagion and how unmanaged emotions can escalate conflicts. Cherolyn introduces practical techniques like the 'calm before think' approach, grounding exercises, and positive self-talk to foster resilience. The importance of investing time in emotional management is emphasized, demonstrating how it can enhance productivity and workplace harmony.
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Feb 27, 2025 • 38min

When Home Hurts: Managing High Conflict's Impact on Your Career

Explore how conflicts at home can drain emotional resources and impact workplace performance. Discover the neuroscience behind stress responses and the role of self-encouragement in maintaining resilience. Gain insights into establishing effective communication with employers while managing personal issues. Learn to create a supportive workplace environment that nurtures mental well-being. Engaging stories and practical strategies make this discussion both relatable and informative, addressing the intricate balance between personal struggles and professional growth.
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Feb 20, 2025 • 34min

Seeds of Personality: Understanding Psychopathy's Origins and Impact (Part 2)

Dive into the fascinating world of psychopathy as experts discuss its origins and how personality traits develop by age six. Discover whether someone can suddenly become psychopathic and explore the intricate interplay of genetics, childhood experiences, and culture. You'll find insights on identifying warning signs in relationships and workplaces, alongside practical advice for navigating interactions with high conflict individuals. The conversation also highlights the historical advantages of these traits and the necessity of empathy in relationships.
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Feb 13, 2025 • 38min

Beyond the Mask: Understanding Psychopathy in Modern Society (Part 1)

Dive into the complex world of psychopathy and its staggering $460 billion annual toll on the U.S. criminal justice system. The hosts uncover early warning signs of antisocial personality disorder and emphasize the vital role of intervention. Learn about psychopathy's three key traits: disinhibition, callousness, and boldness, and how they impact relationships and the corporate world. Gain insights into modern diagnostic approaches that treat traits as a spectrum, opening doors for better understanding and management of these challenging behaviors.
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Feb 6, 2025 • 46min

Meet Judge Bruce R. Cohen (ret.): Family Court Success from Both Sides of the Bench

Join retired Judge Bruce R. Cohen, who spent nearly two decades on the bench in Arizona, as he shares his wealth of experience in family law. He discusses the evolution of the 'best interests of the child' standard, moving beyond gender bias to focus on individual needs. Bruce shares personal stories that highlight the importance of recognizing humanity in each case. He offers practical insights for parents on how to effectively present their cases in court, emphasizing the child's well-being over past conflicts.
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Jan 2, 2025 • 44min

REBROADCAST: The 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life

Explore the five personality disorders that drive high conflict behaviors. Discover traits like blaming others and all-or-nothing thinking, which complicate interactions. Learn how these personalities manifest in various situations, including divorce and workplace disputes. The conversation dives into the manipulative nature of antisocial personalities and highlights the importance of recognizing harmful patterns. With real-life examples and practical insights, gain strategies to navigate these challenging relationships effectively.

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