It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

10 Paradigm Shifts of High Conflict Mediation with Guest Michael Lomax

Feb 16, 2023

Guest Michael Lomax, an expert in high conflict mediation, discusses 10 paradigm shifts essential for mediating high conflict disputes, focusing on problem-solving and client participation. They highlight the importance of avoiding apologies, guiding parties towards future-oriented solutions, and patience in reaching agreements.

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Quick takeaways

Focus on future-oriented discussions instead of dwelling on the past in high conflict mediation.

Encourage parties to actively participate in problem-solving and decision-making during the mediation process.

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Training for Handling High Conflict Cases

There are specialized training programs offered for family and all other mediators to effectively manage high conflict cases. These trainings, created by Bill Eddy, have significantly increased settlement rates above 90% in high conflict cases. The courses include on-demand materials and live Zoom sessions with Bill Eddy.

Introduction

3min

Transitioning to Mediation: A Journey of Impact and Collaboration

5min

Paradigm Shifts in High Conflict Mediation

23min

Navigating High Conflict Interests

8min

The Importance of Patience in Facilitating Agreements in Mediation

4min

Navigating High Conflict Mediation

5min

Concluding Insights on Mediation Paradigm Shifts and Future Episode Preview

2min

Mediating high conflict disputes requires a shift from many standard mediation approaches. When one or more of the parties has a high conflict personality, the process should have more structure and focus away from common mediation topics, such as emotions, the past, and interests, and instead focus more strictly on problem-solving. By having the clients participate more actively in the process – and the mediator serve more as a guide for their active participation – they are more likely to reach their own agreements and follow them.

In today’s episode, Bill and Megan talk with attorney/mediator Michael Lomax, co-author of Mediating High Conflict Disputes (Unhooked Books, 2021) about 10 paradigm shifts that are necessary for mediating high conflict disputes, and serve as the backbone for the New Ways for Mediation®. They will also discuss why to avoid mediating apologies.

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