
Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.
Latest episodes

19 snips
Oct 9, 2023 • 43min
Esther Calling - I Left. Now I Want My Wife Back.
In a heartfelt call, a man grapples with regret after leaving his wife for a work romance, now engaged but yearning to return to his past life. He confides in Esther Perel about his feelings of unworthiness and the complexities of seeking reconciliation. They dive deep into themes of redemption, emotional repression, and the challenge of navigating intimacy. The conversation highlights the struggles of reconnecting amidst unresolved feelings and the inherent shame of past decisions, emphasizing the critical need for communication in healing relationships.

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Oct 2, 2023 • 43min
Tell Me I'm Not Alone
A couple confronts the consequences of an affair, reflecting on the pain and meaning behind their actions. The podcast explores the importance of accountability, caution with money risks, and processing emotions of loss and rage. The therapist helps the couple foster trust, vulnerability, and a sense of being chosen by their partner.

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Sep 25, 2023 • 39min
Esther Calling - Self Love Isn't Something I Grew Up With
A woman grapples with the challenges of being overlooked for a promotion while balancing her cultural identity. The conversation dives into how cultural backgrounds affect personal worth and self-love, particularly for women of color. They discuss the delicate art of self-promotion and the complex dynamics of communication in both professional and personal realms. Additionally, it examines the impact of gender norms on relationships and highlights the empowerment that comes from embracing self-love and advocating for oneself.

Sep 18, 2023 • 42min
How's Work? - The Preacher's Wife Part Two
In this thought-provoking discussion, a couple grapples with the emotional aftermath of a tragic suicide within their church community. They reflect on the impact of grief on their marriage and leadership roles, revealing the vulnerability that comes with responsibility. The conversation explores the balance of compassion in leadership and the hidden struggles many face, emphasizing the importance of maintaining personal boundaries while navigating community dynamics. Deep insights into faith and individual identity highlight the complexities of relationships shaped by religious influence.

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Sep 11, 2023 • 52min
How's Work? - The Preacher's Wife
A couple seeks therapy to address the strains in their marriage, complicated by her role as a preacher's wife and his career-driven identity. They discuss the power dynamics in relationships, exploring how communication falters under pressure. Tensions between personal desires and community obligations come to light, revealing vulnerabilities. The conversation also navigates the impact of childhood insecurities on their connection and highlights the importance of support and validation in overcoming shared challenges.

Aug 28, 2023 • 28min
Esther Calling - My Brother's Wife Ruined Our Relationship
A woman opens up about her struggles with her brother's wife disrupting their once-close bond. She grapples with feelings of rejection and concern over how romantic choices alter family dynamics. Esther Perel, a renowned therapist known for her expertise in relationships, guides her through complex emotions of loyalty, acceptance, and rivalry. They explore how past sibling connections shape current perceptions and the necessity of redefining familial bonds for personal happiness. It's a heartfelt discussion on navigating love and family.

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Aug 14, 2023 • 28min
Esther Calling- I Want Her to Like Me Less
A woman in her 40s shares her relationship journey with Esther Perel, revealing her struggle at a crossroads in finding balance between intense emotions and a comforting partnership. They delve into her complicated history with love, exploring the tension between the thrill of challenge and the acceptance of affection. The conversation touches on her multicultural upbringing and its impact on identity, as well as the emotional turmoil of infatuation and self-worth, encouraging deeper self-reflection and connection.

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Aug 7, 2023 • 32min
Esther Calling - I Crossed a Line I Never Thought I Would Cross
In this introspective discussion, a woman shares her journey after crossing her own moral boundaries through an emotional affair. With insights from relationship expert Esther Perel, they delve into the pain of guilt and the struggle for self-forgiveness. The conversation explores the complexities of love, accountability, and the quest for redemption in relationships. The speakers reflect on personal growth and the importance of setting boundaries, encouraging listeners to embrace their past while moving toward a more fulfilling future.

51 snips
Jul 24, 2023 • 54min
Long Distance and Lost
They knew each other as kids. He grew up in a house where love was never a guarantee. She had the seemingly perfect family and all the love in the world. They've recently begun a romantic relationship as adults, but still can't seem to find their footing and separate themselves from their vastly different histories. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

39 snips
Jul 17, 2023 • 37min
Esther Calling - Am I Being Gaslit?
A woman grapples with feeling gaslit by her partner, questioning her sensitivity and past experiences with boundaries. The conversation dives deep into emotional manipulation and the struggles of establishing healthy boundaries. It also highlights the role of intimacy coordinators in fostering respect in the film industry and the importance of self-awareness in breaking cycles of emotional turmoil. The discussion emphasizes the need for accountability to redefine and improve relationship dynamics.