Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

As They Like Me More, I Like Myself Less

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Jan 29, 2024
Two new mothers share their struggles balancing identities at work and home after long waits for motherhood. One feels overshadowed by her father's legacy while navigating male-dominated dynamics. The other returns to a professional setting after maternity leave, grappling with conflicting feelings about her roles. They discuss the emotional complexities of vulnerability, the impact of leadership styles on self-worth, and the challenges posed by intersectional biases. Their journey highlights the importance of mutual understanding and the need for genuine connections in both personal and professional relationships.
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ANECDOTE

Nina's Job Changes and Father's Praise

  • Nina frequently changes jobs due to conflicts with bosses, often within 6-18 months.
  • She receives praise from her father for promotions, echoing her childhood pattern of seeking his approval.
INSIGHT

Relational History's Impact

  • Esther Perel highlights Nina's "alternative resume": her relational history impacting her career.
  • Nina's drive, recognition seeking, and reactions stem from this history, while Kate harmonizes.
INSIGHT

Kate's Difficulty with Negative Emotions

  • Kate, a harmonizer, struggles with negative emotions due to her family's emphasis on positivity.
  • This upbringing makes her uncomfortable with conflict and expressing personal sorrows.
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