Therapist and author Dr. Robert Glover discusses the problem with being a 'nice guy', exploring its negative impacts, including people-pleasing, resentment, and lack of personal growth. He also delves into the struggles of 'nice guys', such as anxiety, perfectionism, and self-sabotage. The podcast explores the importance of healthy boundaries, living life on one's own terms, and the significance of first sexual experiences. It also touches on societal expectations, the impact of trauma, and finding support for personal growth.

Dr Robert Glover discusses how men can attract quality women by prioritizing their needs, being authentic, and practicing self-compassion. He also shares insights on avoiding the friendzone, tips for dating after divorce, and the problem with seeking approval from external sources.

In today’s episode, we cover passive communication with Dr Robert Glover. Robert is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome, has helped thousands of nice guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males, and is the author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life.Trying to be the nice guy is a fatal step many men take to get what they want out of life, but what makes being a nice guy so bad, how can you identify your nice guy tendencies, and what can you do to get what you want without being a jerk?What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What is Nice Guy Syndrome and why is being a nice guy (or nice girl) counterproductive to getting what you want out of life? Does Nice Guy Syndrome also apply to women? Being a Nice Guy makes people like you less – 13:30  Why does being a nice guy lead people to trust you less and like you less, and what should you do instead? Why do Nice Guys seem inauthentic and untrustworthy? The Covert Contracts of Nice Guys – 19:38  What are the three secret contracts Nice Guys have with other people and why are these contracts harmful to them and their relationships? Identify Relationships that are not serving you – 32:34  What are Cooperative Reciprocal Relationships and what exercise can you do now to understand what relationships are not helping you and what relationships you should add to your life? Setting Boundaries and Expressing Your Desires – 44:25 What can you do if you know you should set boundaries but aren’t sure how to set them or defend them when people around you push back? If you feel shame related to your sexual desires, what can you do to work through it and develop a healthy relationship with your needs and wants, as well as expressing them confidently instead of hiding them? Being a nice guy sounds like a good idea, doesn’t it? Why would it be a bad thing? Turns out, when a man is trying to be a nice guy, it almost always means he’s not being authentic. Many times, a nice guy is nice because he thinks that’s what other people want him to be. He thinks being nice will result in people liking him and treating him better and sleeping with him. Instead, people see the niceness as a facade masking his true intentions and feelings. This makes him untrustworthy and unlikable. People respect and are drawn to others who are comfortable being themselves and being honest with the people around them.A Word From Our SponsorsDo you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. Join today and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using our link? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!Resources from this Episode Dr. Robert Glover’s website No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A deep dive into love, attraction, and authenticity with Dr. Robert Glover, tackling the 'nice guy' syndrome. Topics include self-love, relationships, outcome agnosticism, setting boundaries, and male community connection. Insightful discussion on media influences, personal growth, and the value of authentic connections in relationships.

Dr. Robert Glover, expert in personal development, discusses the impact of being a people pleaser in relationships and covert contracts. They also explore challenges in parenting, breaking free from 'nice guy' behavior, balancing business and family, importance of physical posture, and expressing wants and needs. The participants express gratitude for Dr. Glover's insights and advice.

We've all heard the phrase "Nice guys finish last," right? Why is that? Why do the men whose women friends tell him he'll make a great catch never have a date come Friday night? Or why does the guy who never rocks the boat at work never get the promotion? To answer these questions we talked to Dr. Robert Glover, author of the book No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want In Love, Sex, and Life.We discuss the attributes of these Nice Guys, why there's been a proliferation of Nice Guys during the past 30 years, and what men can do to beat the Nice Guy Syndrome and get more out of life.

Talking points: masculinity, dating, relationships, patriarchy, balance This is a hefty one, folks. The legendary Dr. Glover and acclaimed coach and writer Tony Endelman sat down with me to analyze the shifting roles, needs, expectations, and environments that men find themselves in. This is a great episode to listen to if you'd like a frank but broad-minded lens to look at the male experience with. A lot of what Dr. Glover, Tony, and I talk about are things we've seen again and again in clients, friends, and our own research. (0:00:00) - Intro(0:03:19) - What's happening to boys and men and why?(0:16:33) - Tony's perspective, and masculinity in the digital age(0:24:23) - Male relationships in dating and in general life(0:37:22) - Is modern dating a s***show?(0:49:13) - Conscious dating, emotional tension, and the friend zone Dr. Robert Glover, therapist, coach, speaker, and educator is a relationship expert with over 40 years of professional experience. The author of the groundbreaking, No More Mr. Nice Guy, the best-selling Dating Essentials for Men, and the recently released, Dating Essentials for Men: Frequently Asked Questions, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of men world-wide transform their lives and get what they want in relationship, sex, and career. Tony Endelman is an author, blogger, entrepreneur, and certified transformational life coach. He is also certified in the Psychology of Happiness. His website has been named one of the top 100 personal development blogs. Tony was born and raised in Omaha, Nebraska, and graduated from the University of Wisconsin-Madison with a degree in communications. Tony currently lives in New Orleans. Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | TwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Robert Glover helps men overcome 'nice guy syndrome' by becoming confident and assertive. They discuss childhood experiences, the rise of 'nice guys' in the past 50 years, shifting into men that women respect, emotional tension in relationships, unwiring sexual shame, and understanding and communicating needs.

Dr. Robert Glover, author of *No More Mr. Nice Guy*, joins to discuss life after overcoming Nice Guy Syndrome. He dives into the emotional challenges that linger post-recovery and emphasizes the value of setting healthy boundaries. Dr. Glover shares personal anecdotes on vulnerability and the importance of building genuine connections. The conversation explores how acknowledging past traumas can lead to deeper relationships and emotional resilience. It’s an enlightening journey toward self-discovery and healing for men striving for healthier interactions.

Dr. Robert Glover, author of 'No More Mr. Nice Guy', discusses the negative effects of being a 'nice guy', the concept of covert contracts, the power of therapy in personal growth, and defining masculinity through the 'Healthy Male Rule'.