Modern Wisdom #739 - Dr Robert Glover - The Lifetime Problem With Being A “Nice Guy”
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Feb 1, 2024 
In this engaging discussion, Dr. Robert Glover, a therapist and author specializing in men's issues, tackles the complexities of Nice Guy Syndrome. He uncovers how societal pressures lead to people-pleasing behaviors and the resentment that often follows. The conversation reveals the emotional struggles nice guys face in relationships, emphasizing the importance of authenticity over superficiality. Glover also highlights the significance of community support and men's groups in fostering genuine connections and personal growth, making a strong case for prioritizing self-care.
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Nice Guy Syndrome
- Nice guys believe they're not okay as they are, seeking external validation.
- They hide perceived flaws, becoming inauthentic, dishonest, and resentful.
Nice Guy Traits
- Key traits include people-pleasing, seeking external validation (especially from women), and underachieving.
- Nice guys often experience a dull depression and struggle with honesty.
Origins of Nice Guys
- Dr. Glover observes that nice guys can be influenced by various parental figures, from tyrants to compliant fathers.
- He notes generational shifts, with some rebelling against fathers and others mirroring them.
