Habits and Hustle Episode 482: Dr. Robert Glover: Why Nice Guys Finish Last (And What Women Really Want Instead)
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Sep 9, 2025 
Dr. Robert Glover, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of "No More Mr. Nice Guy," explores the pitfalls of the "nice guy syndrome." He reveals how excessive people-pleasing backfires in love and life, making nice guys less attractive. Glover emphasizes the importance of authenticity, vulnerability, and self-confidence in forming real connections. The conversation also delves into the dynamics of attraction, the need for men to build supportive friendships, and debunks the myths about what women truly want in relationships.
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Core Definition Of Nice Guy Syndrome
- Nice Guy Syndrome is an inauthentic pattern driven by an internal belief 'I'm not okay as I am.'
- That belief creates chameleon-like people-pleasing and hiding of true feelings.
Pleasant Surface, Frustrated Interior
- Nice guys present as calm and pleasant but are often frustrated and passive-aggressive underneath.
- Their avoidance of conflict makes them unpredictable and unattractive over time.
Create Positive Emotional Tension
- Create positive emotional tension: be a little unpredictable, playful, and provide leadership in the relationship.
- If you don't, your partner will create tension in ways you dislike.
