ManTalks Podcast
Dr. Robert Glover and Tony Endelman - Dissecting The New Roles, Needs, And Expectations Of Men
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Quick takeaways
- Men should embrace their flaws and insecurities to create genuine connections in dating and relationships.
- Creating emotional tension is crucial in dating and avoiding the friend zone; men should embrace their sexual intention and desires.
- Building genuine connections and having supportive male friendships can combat loneliness and isolation, leading to personal growth and successful relationships with women.
Deep dives
The Power of Being Yourself
In order to be attractive to women, it is important for men to be themselves and show their true selves. Many men hide their flaws and insecurities, but it is these aspects that make them interesting and allow for genuine connections.
The Importance of Positive Emotional Tension
Creating emotional tension is essential in dating and relationships. Men often fail to create or maintain this tension, which can lead to being placed in the friend zone. By embracing their sexual intention and not hiding their desires, men can avoid diluting the emotional and sexual connection between themselves and their partners.
The Role of Genuine Connections and Male Friendships
Loneliness and isolation are common issues men face, both in dating and in general. Building genuine connections with other men and having supportive male friendships is crucial. By seeking healthy relationships with male friends, men can experience personal growth and create a strong foundation for successful relationships with women.
Balancing Connection and Support in Relationships
In this podcast episode, the importance of building strong connections with men is emphasized. It is highlighted that having a support system of male friends is crucial, not only for single guys but also for men in relationships. It is advised not to rely solely on partners for emotional support and understanding, but to seek support from a group of friends who understand and provide advice. This helps prevent the build-up of resentment and frustration within relationships. The idea of reciprocity in healthy relationships is emphasized, where the man takes loving actions towards the woman, and in return, the woman reciprocates with her own actions. The importance of maintaining a sense of self and purpose outside of the relationship is stressed.
Navigating Challenges in Modern Dating
The podcast explores the challenges men face in modern dating, particularly with the rise of online dating apps. It is acknowledged that both men and women engage in negative behaviors such as ghosting, catfishing, and flakiness. The accumulation of these negative experiences can lead to frustration and resentment. To navigate these challenges, the podcast suggests that instead of solely relying on dating apps, men should approach women in real-life settings with confidence, courtesy, and charm. Approaching women in person is viewed as more effective and distinguishes men from those who solely rely on online interactions. The importance of developing social skills and embracing discomfort for personal growth is emphasized.
Talking points: masculinity, dating, relationships, patriarchy, balance
This is a hefty one, folks. The legendary Dr. Glover and acclaimed coach and writer Tony Endelman sat down with me to analyze the shifting roles, needs, expectations, and environments that men find themselves in.
This is a great episode to listen to if you'd like a frank but broad-minded lens to look at the male experience with. A lot of what Dr. Glover, Tony, and I talk about are things we've seen again and again in clients, friends, and our own research.
(0:00:00) - Intro
(0:03:19) - What's happening to boys and men and why?
(0:16:33) - Tony's perspective, and masculinity in the digital age
(0:24:23) - Male relationships in dating and in general life
(0:37:22) - Is modern dating a s***show?
(0:49:13) - Conscious dating, emotional tension, and the friend zone
Dr. Robert Glover, therapist, coach, speaker, and educator is a relationship expert with over 40 years of professional experience. The author of the groundbreaking, No More Mr. Nice Guy, the best-selling Dating Essentials for Men, and the recently released, Dating Essentials for Men: Frequently Asked Questions, Dr. Glover has helped thousands of men world-wide transform their lives and get what they want in relationship, sex, and career.
Tony Endelman is an author, blogger, entrepreneur, and certified transformational life coach. He is also certified in the Psychology of Happiness. His website has been named one of the top 100 personal development blogs. Tony was born and raised in Omaha, Nebraska, and graduated from the University of Wisconsin-Madison with a degree in communications. Tony currently lives in New Orleans.
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