Order of Man 109: No More Mr. Nice Guy | Dr. Robert Glover
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Apr 18, 2017 
Dr. Robert Glover, author of 'No More Mr. Nice Guy', discusses the negative effects of being a 'nice guy', the concept of covert contracts, the power of therapy in personal growth, and defining masculinity through the 'Healthy Male Rule'.
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Nice Guy Definition
- "Nice Guys" possess a belief system requiring them to please others and avoid rocking the boat.
- They prioritize external validation over their well-being.
Covert Contracts
- "Nice Guys" operate under three covert contracts: everyone will like them, their needs will be met if they meet others' needs, and life should be problem-free if they do everything right.
- These contracts are based on false assumptions and often unrecognized by both the "Nice Guy" and those around him.
Origins of "Nice Guy" Behavior
- "Nice Guy" behavior stems from childhood experiences and coping mechanisms developed in response to imperfect families and unmet needs.
- Children internalize negative experiences as their fault and develop defense mechanisms to avoid future pain.